Be an Effective Communicator

Written by Charlotte Burton

Humans are notrepparttar only species to have some form of communication. Yet we do haverepparttar 135425 most complex forms of communication extant. Hundreds of differing spoken languages and dialects, several visual languages, and several different alphabets, not to mentionrepparttar 135426 various codes based on tones, beats etc, exist all of which are there forrepparttar 135427 purpose of communicating with other people. Human beings are social creatures - communication amongst ourselves is part and parcel of everyday life. Yet many people have "poor communication skills". Why is this so, when we seem to have developed an extraordinarily complex system able to convey a multitude of different purposes?

The Purpose of each Communication - Differences in Style

All communication has a purpose, be that talking to clients overrepparttar 135428 phone, chatting with friends or presenting a report. What arerepparttar 135429 purposes here? In all cases there are a variety at work: maintaining or building relationships, answering specific questions, giving an expert opinion, reframing events in light of previous experience to make them seem more normal, exchanging news to satisfy curiosity, teaching others by grouping seemingly separate pieces of information into a cohesive whole,repparttar 135430 list could go on for a very long time from just three different situations in which communication isrepparttar 135431 main part. The important thing to realise here isrepparttar 135432 differing variables of communication depending onrepparttar 135433 situation. The main variables are: amount and mode of information received (voice, body language etc), role being played, number of people being communicated with at once (and thusrepparttar 135434 amount of differing sets of information being received), vocabulary set being used.

This all seems very complicated: so how are we meant to learn this so subtle skill of communicating effectively? In actuality there are a few separate skills, all of which can improve your communication abilities and that are relevant to all situations you can possibly face. It is not some strange and unintelligible science that is out of reach of most people, but rather it is accepting that to be an effective communicator you must change your communicating style to match that ofrepparttar 135435 person you are communicating with: it is no use expecting them to change for you.

Communication Part 1: Listening/Observing

Communication can be separated into two parts:repparttar 135436 first part is being able to listen and observe. People speak at 100 to 175 words per minute (wpm), but they can listen intelligently at 600 to 800 wpm. Since only a part ofrepparttar 135437 mind is paying attention, it is easy to letrepparttar 135438 mind drift. The cure for this is active and effective listening - which involves listening with a purpose such as to gain information, obtain directions, understand others, solve problems, share interest, show support, etc. By defining your purpose in listening you can moderate your responses to accomplish your purpose.

Active & Effective Listening

So how do you listen actively? First of all, you must be able to yank your mind back from wherever it might drift during a conversation: being able to concentrate exclusively on someone else can be quite difficult for any length of time. With practice you can listen to others without having random thoughts intrude - many people find that meditation helps with this skill as it trainsrepparttar 135439 mind in exactly this fashion. The second way people are distracted during a conversation is by thinking uprepparttar 135440 reply whilerepparttar 135441 other person is still speaking - a really easy way to missrepparttar 135442 point of what another person is saying! Thirdly, you can focus on many different things to make this more interesting so as to prevent your mind from wandering. Concentrating on body language can do this: see how your correspondent is sitting/standing - is it closed or open (closed is turned away or blocked by another part ofrepparttar 135443 body, such as crossingrepparttar 135444 arms, open is facing you and arms and legs not blockingrepparttar 135445 body). Are they looking at you or are they avoiding eye contact? If it isrepparttar 135446 latter, they may not be interested inrepparttar 135447 conversation, they may be lying, and they may be uncomfortable. Are they acting nervously by tapping, twitching or fiddling with something? Are they appearing happy/sad/emotionless? Are their facial behaviours matching or contradicting their bodily behaviours (e.g. nervous tapping ofrepparttar 135448 foot yet open body language and happy appearance)?

Build Rapport through Mirroring

Building rapport is vital in ensuring effective communication and while you are listening you are able to do this by mirroring or matching what your correspondent is doing. For example you cross your legs inrepparttar 135449 same way as them, and put your arms in a similar way, this puts you onrepparttar 135450 same wavelength as your correspondent and will make them be more receptive to what you have to say when you do get around to saying it. Mirroring can also be done throughrepparttar 135451 use ofrepparttar 135452 specific NLP type vocabulary. Notice any clues for NLP type, for later use in responding. An abbreviated explanation of NLP types:repparttar 135453 visual type usesrepparttar 135454 words "I see what you mean" and similar, whilerepparttar 135455 auditory type usesrepparttar 135456 words "I hear what you’re saying", andrepparttar 135457 kinaesthetic will userepparttar 135458 words "I feel I understand this". If you note down what kind of vocabulary is being used, and then use this with them you are more likely to be understood, as well as being more able to be in rapport with them. Try noting down what types your colleagues or your family are: then try deliberately usingrepparttar 135459 wrong type of vocabulary in what you are saying and seeing (visual vocab) whatrepparttar 135460 difference can be to when you userepparttar 135461 correct type forrepparttar 135462 person you are talking to, it flows (kinaesthetic vocab) very differently and you can hear (auditory vocab)repparttar 135463 discord.

Legacy - the Power Within: Book Review

Written by C. Bailey-Lloyd/LadyCamelot

Legacy - how does one define it? According torepparttar American Heritage Dictionary®, Legacy is defined as money or property bequeathed by will. In Tony DeLiso's (Expanded Edition) Book, "Legacy -repparttar 135315 Power Within;" we are immersed inrepparttar 135316 realization of all that was, is and hasrepparttar 135317 possibility to be through ones' innate legacy of positive reaffirmation.

Legacy -repparttar 135318 Power Within conveys a powerful life lesson on how to take life byrepparttar 135319 reigns, and how to manifest dreams into reality. Applying simple practices of thought retraining, affirmation and faith, Mr. DeLiso's book explains how to integrate his seven steps in goal setting, problem solving and decision making to bring forth positive end results in individual lives!

Legacy -repparttar 135320 Power Within is a beneficial, mental tool that helps rediscover ones' personal power and how to use this power to reprogram thinking patterns into an overall, healthier state of mind. Renewed thought patterns can develop into progressive and positive life changes. Thus, Legacy -repparttar 135321 Power Within is an effectual guide for those seeking positive and personally, fulfilling lifestyles. Are you looking for personal empowerment? Have you lost insight into how to succeed in life? Perhaps, Legacy -repparttar 135322 Power Within is for you.

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