Be True

Written by Monique Rider

The concept of “being true to myself” seemed foreign to me for most of my life. I would listen to others instead of myself; or I would listen to my doubt instead of my intuition. That’s probably why I kept receivingrepparttar same messages over and over again. When I finally started to live in integrity and follow my heart, an amazing shift took place. Now my "self" almost demands that I live true to my values.

In trying to be true to ourselves, we often make some unusual (and unpopular) decisions. They feel good to us but, at times, may be not quite politically correct. We proceed withrepparttar 102028 decision but thenrepparttar 102029 doubt pops into our head. Did I makerepparttar 102030 right decision? What will they think of me?

Doubt can play very silly games with us. Even though, at times, we need to pay attention to its nagging feeling - other times it can destroy our hard earned effort to "be true". If you go to allrepparttar 102031 hard work of thinking out a decision, listening to your intuition, and logic - then you also have to trust that process and not let doubt (or what others think) ruin your accomplishment of being true.


Written by Rinatta Paries

Do you know how to establish a new relationship to guarantee that it will meet all of your and your partner's relationship needs?

Most people don't know how to do this. As a result, most relationships go through a predictable cycle:

=> Honeymoon: 1 week to 3 months => Struggle: Up to 3 years or more => Negotiation and peace or breakup

To avoid this cycle and establish a nourishing relationship for both of you, you and your partner need to have a deep, extended conversation. It may span many discussions, perhaps over weeks or even a month. The right time to initiate this conversation is when it's clear to both of you there is mutual interest and both of you are ready to go further. However, it is never too late to have this conversation, even if you have been together for years.

Coverrepparttar following topics in this conversation:

* What you expect from each other, or from a "relationship partner," onrepparttar 102027 emotional, mental and everyday levels.

* What actions, words and feelings each of you needs fromrepparttar 102028 other, or from a "relationship partner," in order for both of you to thrive.

* What you and your partner refuse to tolerate in a relationship and from a "relationship partner."

While having this conversation, it is important that you both listen to each other intently, frequently paraphrasing whatrepparttar 102029 other person is saying.

You want to make sure there is mutual understanding. You both will want to reflect on what is being said by sharing your thoughts and feelings. However, under no circumstances do you want to react to each other or make each other wrong for what is being said. Remember that each of you has a right to your own view of what is needed and desired in a relationship.

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