Do you know how to establish a new relationship to guarantee that it will meet all of your and your partner's relationship needs?
Most people don't know how to do this. As a result, most relationships go through a predictable cycle:
=> Honeymoon: 1 week to 3 months => Struggle: Up to 3 years or more => Negotiation and peace or breakup
To avoid this cycle and establish a nourishing relationship for both of you, you and your partner need to have a deep, extended conversation. It may span many discussions, perhaps over weeks or even a month. The right time to initiate this conversation is when it's clear to both of you there is mutual interest and both of you are ready to go further. However, it is never too late to have this conversation, even if you have been together for years.
Cover following topics in this conversation:
* What you expect from each other, or from a "relationship partner," on emotional, mental and everyday levels.
* What actions, words and feelings each of you needs from other, or from a "relationship partner," in order for both of you to thrive.
* What you and your partner refuse to tolerate in a relationship and from a "relationship partner."
While having this conversation, it is important that you both listen to each other intently, frequently paraphrasing what other person is saying.
You want to make sure there is mutual understanding. You both will want to reflect on what is being said by sharing your thoughts and feelings. However, under no circumstances do you want to react to each other or make each other wrong for what is being said. Remember that each of you has a right to your own view of what is needed and desired in a relationship.