Why do we help others? There is a whole lot of pain and poverty, illness and despair in world. I can't speak for you but I would like to make a difference and improve quality of life for others. Volunteer work is a great way to begin.

No single person can change entire world but you can have an impact on lives of others in your own corner of universe. That, in a small way, changes world ever so slightly. Multiply that by a billion and it is a brave new world. How many times have you heard people say " You can't change world. You are just one person?" It begins with one. Forget all that nonsense defeatists choose to fill there heads with. That's their business. The contents of your head is all that matters.

Your happiness counts. How can you share your happiness if you have none to share? You can't be happy if you put others happiness ahead of your own. You have to put yourself first in order to have tools to affect change.

I don't know how many people I have met that speak of all hungry people of world living in poverty. And how they dream of helping them. These are people that are wallowing in consumer debt, working poor, just inches away from bankruptcy. They want to help others when they cannot even dream of themselves living in prosperity. Such noble nonsense.

If you are a male and behave like a male, a heterosexual female will be attracted to you (or at least your gender). But if a male does everything he can to please opposite sex (pun intended) and acts sweet and friendly and artistic and gentile and kind and submissive and loving and tender, will a very feminine female be attracted to that male?

NOT A CHANCE.

The above listed personality traits are wonderful, but very feminine in nature. A male who possesses and behaves through these qualities (a majority of these qualities as his facade personality) will appear effeminate.

A woman has girlfriends and family to provide her those things anyway. A female needs to feel a powerful, inexplicable attraction towards a male in order for progression to occur towards a sexual and/or committed relationship. If a male is exuding an energy that is very positive, she will be repelled by it. For whatever reason, probably because of thousands of years of evolution and human development, this is an axiom innately embedded into our social and biological ways. Feminine females are attracted to masculine males and vice-versa. Opposites do attract, specifically concerning attraction that is driven by primal sexual instincts.

Today, specifically because of collapsing of traditional family and grey-shading of gender roles and a phenomenon I call unisexification, it is difficult to know how to behave towards opposite sex, specifically during courtship. Now-a-days assertive or slightly aggressive behavior (which is a universally attractive characteristic of male mammals of ANY specie) is frowned upon, by our legal system and mass media. This is scaring males into become wussies, for fear of getting sued for groping, harassment and other fine-line crimes. By no means am I trivializing seriousness of sexual harassment or violence towards women. In fact, I would go as far as suggest that because of social discouragement of certain, natural and intrinsic, male characteristics, men are more like to bottle up feelings that eventually are released in a morbid or unacceptable way. Unisexification and discouraging males from being males, actually contributes to their sometimes-disturbing behavior toward women.

Am I saying that aggression, decisiveness, cynicism, sarcasm, focus, constructiveness, drive and goal-orientation are primarily male attributes? YES I AM.

Am I saying females can not or do not have any of these traits? I certainly am not! Males and females can share all sorts of characteristics that can be deemed either male or female. But this is not about males and females, but more about masculine and feminine energies, and their differences.