Be Selfish With Your Goals

Written by Jeffrey Rolo


All too often good-intentioned people set forth goals designed to satiate others rather than themselves. Whilerepparttar intent is honorable,repparttar 128858 results will likely lead to failure. Why? Asrepparttar 128859 somewhat provocative title of this article indicates, you need to be selfish with your goals and select ones that mean something to you.

Through segments onrepparttar 128860 evening news, magazines, talk shows, radio programming and evenrepparttar 128861 advice of family and friends, we are consistently subjected to a whole litany of goals that anyone with half a brain should strive for. If we were to listen to allrepparttar 128862 experts, we would all need to be perfectly fit and rich individuals with at least two college majors under our belt.

Baloney.

Now I won't deny that there are tremendous benefits to being physically fit, financially well off or highly educated, but let's be honest here – one doesn't require all ofrepparttar 128863 above to live a successful and happy life. There are many somewhat overweight individuals that are quite happy to escaperepparttar 128864 annoyances of careful food selection and exercise and instead focus on earning money or spending time with family. Byrepparttar 128865 same token, there are many physically fit individuals that see no need to bring in extraordinary levels of income to be happy; they would just as well get by with what they need to live.

I firmly believe all of us should constantly strive to improve ourselves, but there is no single blueprint that we should all follow. What might be important to me (business and management) might not be important to you, and vice versa. For this reason, when you are determining which goals you would like to pursue you should always block outrepparttar 128866 wishes of others and select goals that are dear to your heart.

This sounds incredibly selfish, but obviously I'm not advocating adopting a goal that would hurt others, and ideally in a committed relationship you and your significant other would share common goals. But when push comes to shove, if you choose a goal for someone else rather than yourself you will do yourself a huge disservice.

Take, for example, weight loss. Many overweight people lead happy and successful lives despite their weight; you don't have to be as fit as a fiddle to be happy. Let's say one of these somewhat overweight individuals decided one day to finally buckle underrepparttar 128867 constant societal harping aboutrepparttar 128868 benefits of weight loss and begin a diet program. What would happen?

Need To Stop Worrying?

Written by Janet Male


I once worked with a woman whose zest,joy and enthusiasm lit uprepparttar room [and it was a big office!]

I remarked that it was lovely that she was always such uplifting company.

"Oh,I wasn't always like this", she replied. "It all changed when my dad died, when I was about forty."

"Was he that bad?" I asked her.

"Onrepparttar 128855 contray," she told me "he was wonderful." However, just before he died he made a confession:

"Darling, I have ruined my life with worry. And not one thing I've worried about has ever happened! Don't letrepparttar 128856 same thing happen to you!"

Something "clicked" within her. And she kicked her worry habit from then on!

If you need something to 'click' to stop you worrying I hoperepparttar 128857 following helps:

Often when a worry 'pops in'repparttar 128858 normal reaction is to try and solve it. This is fine if there is something tangible that can be done right now. However, many worries are either entirely imaginary, or a small 'problem' is blown out of all proportion.

So what happens is that you try to 'solve' what doesn't exist. The more you try and solve itrepparttar 128859 worserepparttar 128860 'problem' gets.

A wise old woman once said to me "Why are you worrying what you're going to say to so and so a week on Monday? You'll be there' you'll know!"

Lets take an imaginary, but common, example:

Miss Anxious starts worrying that she may lose her job. She tries to solve this imaginary 'problem' by looking for a new job. But if she can't get another one, she'll have to sellrepparttar 128861 house. And if it doesn't sell and she can't affordrepparttar 128862 mortgage payements....and so on, until she's pushing a shopping cart, containing all her belongings, aroundrepparttar 128863 streets...

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