Be Here Now

Written by Eileen McDargh, CSP, CPAE

When we are young, we feel that time is on our side. Not any more.

Our days are a blur of perceived demands from workplaces stretched beyondrepparttar leading edge torepparttar 123935 bleeding edge, from technology that allows others to locate us even inrepparttar 123936 privacy of our cars and bathrooms, from children and aging parents who name us and claim us, and from our inability to find options for creating mind sets and actions that can give us a modicum of breathing space and control.

We can all singrepparttar 123937 chorus: “There’s too much to do and too little time.” We have created a commodity worth ofrepparttar 123938 Stock Exchange: Time. We spend it, lose it, waste it, and manage it. We’re told to make time, use time, take time and, if we’ve had a run-in withrepparttar 123939 law, we might even “do” time.

Time isrepparttar 123940 great equalizer, given in singular 24-hour chunks byrepparttar 123941 rising ofrepparttar 123942 sun andrepparttar 123943 setting ofrepparttar 123944 moon. No money can buy it, no power can hold it, no army can stop it. We need to concentrate on winning back our life -- snatching it away fromrepparttar 123945 blur of to-do lists, technology, and work/life pressures.

Four Truths

The more I ponder time demands, I realize four truths:

Truth 1: Simplicity isn’t simple. It’s an admirable, essential goal that most of us are working on. Simplicity takes time and requires an agreement from all those impacted by its requirements. We’ve been given day-to-day wisdom to follow in realizingrepparttar 123946 already-present abundance without adding to our closet, our bank account, our larder.

Truth 2: The technology genie will not go back intorepparttar 123947 bottle. Once released, our challenge becomes to wisely choose when we access technology’s power. The seductiveness of thinking we are so important that people must find us any time, any place, for any matter is ego at its worst. Consider my experience with a man who brought his computer and cellular phone along on a four-day cruise. He was not present. He missedrepparttar 123948 experience. And, I think, he lost.

Truth 3: Time management creates order and structure. It does not create present moment awareness. I’m not concerned with “managing time” as much as I am for discovering how to make better choices for what we put in these blocks called “time.” This is not about findingrepparttar 123949 latest time-saving devices. We all have a plethora of these. Too often, they’ve become excuses for letting us cram our life with longer to-do lists. We end up working harder and longer. What I want to have us consider is taking control, finding personal empowerment in our work, lives, lifestyles, and relationships. It’s about finding more life in our years and more years in our life. We do not have extra time, but we do have discretionary energy and creativity. And we can learn to be present inrepparttar 123950 moment.

Getting In Control

Written by Eileen McDargh, CSP, CPAE

In a world where “too much to do and too little time” is a common mantra, there’s a sense that everyone and everything has more control over our day than we do. While we might be atrepparttar beck and call of clients, there are still areas whererepparttar 123934 culprit is none other than ourselves.

Usingrepparttar 123935 word “control” as an acronym, let me suggest ways in which we can begin to gain some relief from self-induced pressure.

(C)anrepparttar 123936 clutter. Do you walk into your office and instantly feel a sense that you could get buried in all that mess? Papers are piled onrepparttar 123937 desk, onrepparttar 123938 floor, and in tiered boxes. Note that if this is your natural style of organization, you’d feel pressure by having items out of sight! But if you’re like a great majority of people, clutter only adds torepparttar 123939 time spent in finding what you need. Do you use everything that you have on display? Can you find items when you need them? If you’ve answered “no,” proceed torepparttar 123940 next recommendation.

(O)ut with excess paper. Examine what surrounds you. What can you throw out, give out, leave out? If you are months behind in journals and other publications, scanrepparttar 123941 table of contents and keep only those items that you KNOW you’ll need. Throwrepparttar 123942 rest away.

(N)o, not, never, not now. Say it. Practice it. We frequently nod our heads “yes” like a wind-up toy because of guilt, fear, or a sense that obligation. Ask yourself, why do you say “yes”. Perhaps even a “not now” would suffice. I am convinced that if we do not put limits on our time, it will vanish with our unknowing permission.

(T)alk up. To curtail long conversations or meeting, learn these sentences. “I would like to be able to talk with you but I have another engagement. Can you please tell me your request (situation, concern, etc.) in 25 words or less?” First, you won’t be lying with your opening statement. You will always have another engagement—even if it’s withrepparttar 123943 report in your computer. Second, you have indicated a willingness to respond. You have merely put a concise cast torepparttar 123944 conversation. It’s amazing how “25 words or less” can increaserepparttar 123945 speed and fluency of conversation. As a variation on this theme, you can also curtail a drawn-out conversation with this question: “How would you like this conversation to end?”

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