Be Afraid

Written by Dave Balch

There's no doubt about it: fear holds people back. Period. Fear is probably one ofrepparttar most important obstacles to overcome in order to be successful. "Fear of what?" you may ask. Fear of failure (you probably guessed that one) and fear of success.

Fear of success???

Absolutely! People fear success because there is a lot of pressure to stay atrepparttar 101851 top when they get there, and there isrepparttar 101852 feeling that they don't deserve what they've achieved; someone will eventually discover that fact and it will all go away. I saw an interview of Chevy Chase last night and he said that most ofrepparttar 101853 celebrities he's ever known feel like someone will "discover" that they really have no talent after all.

I think that a lot of people get to a certain level of success and stay there because they just don't feel comfortable at a higher level. In retrospect, I think that may have happened to me and caused me to sort of slack off when I got to a comfortable income level. Looking back I actually felt a little fear atrepparttar 101854 idea of making more money than I already was, and it held me back.

People fear failure because their self-esteem is too tied-up in what they are doing. If they fail then they are somehow diminished and less of a person. And, they are concerned about what others will think if they make a mistake or if something isn't perfect because they depend onrepparttar 101855 approval of others in order to feel good about themselves

When you are afraid, you go into a protective mode that includes, but is not limited to:

1. Giving up too easily. You can't be good at what you do if you give up too easily. Some things just have to be hammered-on repeatedly until you getrepparttar 101856 results you want. Fear of failure is a self-fulfilling prophecy, because when you give up too easily failure is almost assured. Weird how that works, don't you think?

Your Secret Weapon

Written by Dave Balch

Did you know that you had a secret weapon to help you solve complex and perplexing problems? It is available to each and every one of us whether we know it or not, whether we use it or not.

Do you want to know what it is? I knew you would: it's your subconscious.

Stay with me here... and don't roll your eyes! This is not some hocus-pocus new age revolution or a pie-in-the-sky theory. This is a fact and if you're not taking advantage of it you are missing out big-time.

The best way to explain it is with an example of how I used it just last night.

It has been very hot up here inrepparttar mountains (at least to me!) and I don't do well inrepparttar 101850 heat. We have central air conditioning forrepparttar 101851 first level but my office is onrepparttar 101852 lower level and is way too hot for me to concentrate. So, I set up a makeshift office upstairs and wired it so I could operate my desktop computer (downstairs) from upstairs using my notebook computer. There is special software to do this and I couldn't get it to work properly: I could operaterepparttar 101853 laptop fromrepparttar 101854 desktop, but notrepparttar 101855 other way around, which isrepparttar 101856 way I needed it to work.

I tried everything: technical support atrepparttar 101857 manufacturer's website, other user groups onrepparttar 101858 Internet, comparingrepparttar 101859 settings onrepparttar 101860 different computers (after all, it worked one way, why won't it workrepparttar 101861 other way??), reading documentation, "help" files, etc. To complicaterepparttar 101862 situation, I was using an older version ofrepparttar 101863 software which was no longer supported. Needless to say, I was very frustrated and out of options; I couldn't think of anything else to try.

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