Be AfraidWritten by Dave Balch
There's no doubt about it: fear holds people back. Period. Fear is probably one of most important obstacles to overcome in order to be successful. "Fear of what?" you may ask. Fear of failure (you probably guessed that one) and fear of success.Fear of success??? Absolutely! People fear success because there is a lot of pressure to stay at top when they get there, and there is feeling that they don't deserve what they've achieved; someone will eventually discover that fact and it will all go away. I saw an interview of Chevy Chase last night and he said that most of celebrities he's ever known feel like someone will "discover" that they really have no talent after all. I think that a lot of people get to a certain level of success and stay there because they just don't feel comfortable at a higher level. In retrospect, I think that may have happened to me and caused me to sort of slack off when I got to a comfortable income level. Looking back I actually felt a little fear at idea of making more money than I already was, and it held me back. People fear failure because their self-esteem is too tied-up in what they are doing. If they fail then they are somehow diminished and less of a person. And, they are concerned about what others will think if they make a mistake or if something isn't perfect because they depend on approval of others in order to feel good about themselves When you are afraid, you go into a protective mode that includes, but is not limited to: 1. Giving up too easily. You can't be good at what you do if you give up too easily. Some things just have to be hammered-on repeatedly until you get results you want. Fear of failure is a self-fulfilling prophecy, because when you give up too easily failure is almost assured. Weird how that works, don't you think?
| | Your Secret WeaponWritten by Dave Balch
Did you know that you had a secret weapon to help you solve complex and perplexing problems? It is available to each and every one of us whether we know it or not, whether we use it or not.Do you want to know what it is? I knew you would: it's your subconscious. Stay with me here... and don't roll your eyes! This is not some hocus-pocus new age revolution or a pie-in-the-sky theory. This is a fact and if you're not taking advantage of it you are missing out big-time. The best way to explain it is with an example of how I used it just last night. It has been very hot up here in mountains (at least to me!) and I don't do well in heat. We have central air conditioning for first level but my office is on lower level and is way too hot for me to concentrate. So, I set up a makeshift office upstairs and wired it so I could operate my desktop computer (downstairs) from upstairs using my notebook computer. There is special software to do this and I couldn't get it to work properly: I could operate laptop from desktop, but not other way around, which is way I needed it to work. I tried everything: technical support at manufacturer's website, other user groups on Internet, comparing settings on different computers (after all, it worked one way, why won't it work other way??), reading documentation, "help" files, etc. To complicate situation, I was using an older version of software which was no longer supported. Needless to say, I was very frustrated and out of options; I couldn't think of anything else to try.
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