Balance Your Masculine and Feminine EnergiesWritten by Michael D. Pollock
One key to a successful and fulfilling life is balancing your masculine and feminine energies. If you take a look at your typical day, you'll probably notice there are times when you're very action oriented. At other times, you'll notice you're not really doing much of anything, but
instead, you're simply being.
These two activities - doing and being - are physical expression of masculine and feminine energies. These terms have nothing to do with gender, and everyone, whether you're male or female, is composed of both energies.
Masculine energy is assertive and action oriented. It's energy you use to go out into world and get things done. You might also consider this your powerful energy. It's focused, persistent and aggressive. This energy seeks to penetrate world and make things happen. We tend to associate this energy with personality or ego.
Feminine energy is passive and vulnerable. It's energy you use when you attract, magnetize or allow thing into your life. It's "be-ing" oriented rather than doing oriented. When expressing this energy, we tend to reach a deeper, more spiritual place. We tend to associate this energy with soul.
If you're like most people, you probably lean more toward one or other. In fact, our culture places a premium on masculine energy. Most of us are taught that we should be doing, accomplishing and producing something almost constantly.
We admire people who seem to get a lot done and sometimes judge ourselves if we can't measure up to their accomplishments.
The problem, of course, with doing and accomplishing so much is we end up ignoring opposite part of ourselves - our soul, our spiritual essence.
You Teach People How to Treat YouWritten by Rhoberta Shaler
So often we hear people ask question, "Why does he/she hey treat me/us so badly?". The honest answer, in most cases, is "Because you let him, her or they!"
If that seems too simple an answer, think of it this way. You make a date for lunch with someone new. They arrive twenty minutes late, citing traffic, office hold ups, weather, their car or their kids. Of course, things do happen to detain even best intentioned person. You accept apology and have a lovely lunch. The next time you have lunch with this person, they are thirty minutes late. Aha, there may be a pattern developing. What do you do?
Unless you do not mind this behavior, you then have opportunity to teach that person how to treat you. Good communication skills come into play. You can say something like, "One of things I've found works for me is to be honest with people. I really enjoy your company and would like to continue meeting for lunch. I know things come up at last minute and sometimes traffic can be horrendous. I'd like us to agree that either of us can leave if other is more than fifteen minutes late? Would that be all right with you?" This clearly communicates what you need and want without ascribing blame. It builds relationship when you make clear agreements with people. Would it be all right with you if an employee came to work consistenly one-half hour late? No, there is an agreement about starting time, isn't there? The same is true of our own time.