Confidence is not something that can really be taught. It can be learned, but for me to say that I wish to show you how to become confident in 5 easy steps isn't appropriate. Confidence is a trait we all have to varying levels. Those that are very self-assured generally believe in who they are, what they are doing and pursue their convictions with vigor based on this belief. Confidence isn't hard to learn. It comes to you with knowledge, experience and desire.
Through our lifetime, we will tackle new challenges; some will be known quantities while others will be unknown. It is how we tackle our problems and what we learn from them that is important. You can't always confront things that you have no experience in, but if you regularly doubt your confidence, you may become insular and seldom stray from familiar.
It is through our knowledge of familiar, where we can draw on our strengths to move on to new and more challenging tasks. It is our knowledge of our abilities, which gives us strength we need, to ask more from ourselves to move up to next level. Your confidence is paramount in your success!
Tell me, have you ever heard of any success stories where Gold Medallist, CEO, President or Prime Minister lacked confidence? Had they done so, then it's unlikely they would have got themselves into their respective position. Your belief in your abilities is your confidence. It is everything. It is a lack of confidence that precludes us from doing many things simply because our faith in ourselves is lacking.
Okay, let's assume your self-confidence is down. Negative results and negative feedback are two major contributors to shaking our own personal belief. There are reasons for negative results, which should be examined in detail. Generally speaking, it is because someone, maybe yourself, had higher expectations than you could deliver. Of course, there are a myriad of possibilities but let's work on this one. When this happens you have two possibilities:
Ø Crawl into your shell full of guilt and shame Ø Learn from it and bounce back with a vengeance
The first option isn't really an option, as it will zap your confidence. In fact, it will strip you of self-belief and make it difficult for you to tackle it again. Option 2 is all about learning from your mistakes and jumping right back on horse. It is your persistence, willingness to learn and your belief in yourself and your abilities, which keeps you marching forward. This will give your self-confidence a major boost.