Awareness is Serious Business

Written by Mary Rosendale


Let’s talk about AwDD. This is notrepparttar same as AD/HD. You may have Awareness Deficit Disorder – you just may not be aware of it. Pun intended.

Ever stand in your own living room; hold an item in your hand; put it down; turn to do something and then spend two hours looking for it. Hands up those whose most memorable searches have stretched into days?

How about those of you who live in large towns which have stores with big parking lots. Ever spend an unproductive half hour wandering up and down rows of cars with heavy shopping bags in your arms trying hard to look nonchalant but feeling like an idiot? How is it possible that you have absolutely no idea where your car is when you yourself parked and locked it and strolled away from it less than an hour ago?

It does get worse as you get older but it can strike at any age. In fact young children can be fabulously, intensely unaware of reality.

This year we have all been made aware (there’s that word again) of just how devastating AwDD can be. A well-educated sophisticated college professor parked his car and strolled away from it leaving his 10-month-old child securely strapped inrepparttar 122733 back seat. Four hours laterrepparttar 122734 child was discovered dead. Just to show that AwDD is not gender-specific a pre-school teacher parked her SUV and strolled into her own school leaving two of her little charges baking inrepparttar 122735 back seat.

Recently, I opened my paper and read about a local man who went to work leaving his sweltering 5 month old securely strapped into her car seat. He was arrested five hours later on suspicious of negligent homicide. Authorities later decided not to press charges stating thatrepparttar 122736 incident was an accident andrepparttar 122737 man was not at fault. Which is interesting because it implies that we have no control over our awareness. We are not accountable for being present in our own lives.

Overcoming Procrastination

Written by Steve Pavlina


Overcoming Procrastination

Procrastination,repparttar habit of putting tasks off torepparttar 122732 last possible minute, can be a major problem in both your career and your personal life. Missed opportunities, frenzied work hours, stress, overwhelm, resentment, and guilt are just some ofrepparttar 122733 symptoms. This article will explorerepparttar 122734 root causes of procrastination and give you several practical tools to overcome it.

Replace "Have To" With "Want To"

First, thinking that you absolutely have to do something is a major reason for procrastination. When you tell yourself that you have to do something, you're implying that you're being forced to do it, so you'll automatically feel a sense of resentment and rebellion. Procrastination kicks in as a defense mechanism to keep you away from this pain. Ifrepparttar 122735 task you are putting off has a real deadline, then whenrepparttar 122736 deadline gets very close,repparttar 122737 sense of pain associated withrepparttar 122738 task becomes overridden byrepparttar 122739 much greater sense of pain if you don't get started immediately.

The solution to this first mental block is to realize and accept that you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Even though there may be serious consequences, you are always free to choose. No one is forcing you to run your businessrepparttar 122740 way you do. Allrepparttar 122741 decisions you've made alongrepparttar 122742 way have brought you to where you are today. If you don't like where you've ended up, you're free to start making different decisions, and new results will follow. Also be aware that you don't procrastinate in every area of your life. Evenrepparttar 122743 worst procrastinators have areas where they never procrastinate. Perhaps you never miss your favorite TV show, or you always manage to check your favorite online forums each day. In each situationrepparttar 122744 freedom of choice is yours. So if you're putting off starting that new project you feel you "have to" do this year, realize that you're choosing to do it of your own free will. Procrastination becomes less likely on tasks that you openly and freely choose to undertake.

Replace "Finish It" With "Begin It"

Secondly, thinking of a task as one big whole that you have to complete will virtually ensure that you put it off. When you focus onrepparttar 122745 idea of finishing a task where you can't even clearly envision allrepparttar 122746 steps that will lead to completion, you create a feeling of overwhelm. You then associate this painful feeling torepparttar 122747 task and delay as long as possible. If you say to yourself, "I've got to do my taxes today," or "I must complete this report," you're very likely to feel overwhelmed and putrepparttar 122748 task off.

The solution is to think of starting one small piece ofrepparttar 122749 task instead of mentally feeling that you must finishrepparttar 122750 whole thing. Replace, "How am I going to finish this?" with "What small step can I start on right now?" If you simply start a task enough times, you will eventually finish it. If one ofrepparttar 122751 projects you want to complete is to clean out your garage, thinking that you have to finish this big project in one fell swoop can make you feel overwhelmed, and you'll put it off. Ask yourself how you can get started on just one small part ofrepparttar 122752 project. For example, go to your garage with a notepad, and simply write down a few ideas for quick 10-minute tasks you could do to make a dent inrepparttar 122753 piles of junk. Maybe move one or two obvious pieces of junk torepparttar 122754 trash can while you're there. Don't worry about finishing anything significant. Just focus on what you can do right now. If you do this enough times, you'll eventually be starting onrepparttar 122755 final piece ofrepparttar 122756 task, and that will lead to finishing.

Replace Perfectionism With Permission To Be Human

A third type of erroneous thinking that leads to procrastination is perfectionism. Thinking that you must dorepparttar 122757 job perfectlyrepparttar 122758 first try will likely prevent you from ever getting started. Believing that you must do something perfectly is a recipe for stress, and you'll associate that stress withrepparttar 122759 task and thus condition yourself to avoid it. You then end up puttingrepparttar 122760 task off torepparttar 122761 last possible minute, so that you finally have a way out of this trap. Now there isn't enough time to dorepparttar 122762 job perfectly, so you're offrepparttar 122763 hook because you can tell yourself that you could have been perfect if you only had more time. But if you have no specific deadline for a task, perfectionism can cause you to delay indefinitely. If you've never even started that project you always wanted to do really well, could perfectionism be holding you back?

The solution to perfectionism is to give yourself permission to be human. Have you ever used a piece of software that you consider to be perfect in every way? I doubt it. Realize that an imperfect job completed today is always superior torepparttar 122764 perfect job delayed indefinitely. Perfectionism is also closely connected to thinking ofrepparttar 122765 task as one big whole. Replace that one big perfectly completed task in your mind with one small imperfect first step. Your first draft can be very, very rough. You are always free to revise it again and again. For example, if you want to write a 5000-word article, feel free let your first draft be only 100 words if it helps you get started. That's less thanrepparttar 122766 length of this paragraph.

Replace Deprivation With Guaranteed Fun

A fourth mental block is associating deprivation with a task. This means you believe that undertaking a project will offset much ofrepparttar 122767 pleasure in your life. In order to complete this project, will you have to putrepparttar 122768 rest of your life on hold? Do you tell yourself that you will have to go into seclusion, work long hours, never see your family, and have no time for fun? That's not likely to be very motivating, yet this is what many people do when trying to push themselves into action. Picturing an extended period of working long hours in solitude with no time for fun is a great way to guarantee procrastination.

The solution torepparttar 122769 deprivation mindset is to dorepparttar 122770 exact opposite. Guaranteerepparttar 122771 fun parts of your life first, and then schedule your work around them. This may sound counterproductive, but this reverse psychology works extremely well. Decide in advance what times you will allocate each week to family time, entertainment, exercise, social activities, and personal hobbies. Guarantee an abundance of all your favorite leisure activities. Then limitrepparttar 122772 amount of working hours each week to whatever is left. The peak performers in any field tend to take more vacation time and work shorter hours thanrepparttar 122773 workaholics. By treating your working time as a scarce resource rather than an uncontrollable monster that can gobble up every other area of your life, you'll begin to feel much more balanced, and you'll be far more focused and effective in using your working time. It's been shown thatrepparttar 122774 optimal work week for most people is 40-45 hours. Working longer hours than this actually has such an adverse effect on productivity and motivation that less real work is done inrepparttar 122775 long run. What would happen if you only allowed yourself a certain number of hours a week to work? What if I came to you and said, "You are only allowed to work 10 hours this week?" Your feeling of deprivation would be reversed, wouldn't it? Instead of feeling that work was depriving you of leisure time, you'd feel you were being deprived of work. You'd replace, "I want to play" with "I want to work," your motivation for work would skyrocket, and all traces of procrastination would vanish.

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