You are not only one as there are an estimated 3 million single people in London alone. And that’s a lot of potential dating material. Speed dating is big thing at moment, and dating agencies are sprouting. Internet dating is also becoming quite popular.

Everyone dreams of that ideal relationship – one that is full of love and affection. A relationship with someone that you connect with mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. We all want to meet our soul mate.

So how does one find that ideal relationship?

The key thing is to focus on creating your ideal life. To attract and create your ideal relationship, shift your focus away from attracting a partner and wanting a relationship. Focus instead on creating kind of life that you truly want. The kind of life that excites you so much that you jump out of bed every morning. Once you are in such a clearing, your dream partner can simply walk in and join you. The dream relationship should be icing on cake that is your life, and not end all and be all of your life.

To create your ideal life, ask your self what it is going to be about. What do you want to do for a living and what do you contribute to world? Where do you want to live and how much money do you want to make? The key is to make your self truly happy right now and also to remain happy regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not.

This is not to say that you don’t go in for things like speed dating. Just treat these as fun and social events. The trick with making most of these events is to focus on your best points and be proud of that. For example, you may have a great smile and so show it off.

To make an impact with your speed dating partner, ask unusual or even outrageous questions such as – what turns you on most about a person of opposite sex? This is sure to make an impression rather than usual questions such as what do you do, and where do you come from. Also, listen to other person – we have two ears and one mouth – so listen at least twice as much as you talk.

Finally it is okay to be rejected when asking someone out on a date. It is only their opinion and their choice. And with all dating related events, have no attachment to outcome and have fun. Otherwise why would you even do it?

As for creating a clearing in your life for that dream partner to walk in, here are some tips:

Performing is no “ordinary” activity, even if you do it week in, week out, because to be at your peak and to deliver 150% at your highest potential, you need to have lots of practice and preparation under your sleeves!

I admit, it’s hard to practice when you’re in front of mirror or just with yourself – it just isn’t same as if you were with people or on stage. No matter how much you sing or drum to yourself in front of mirror, it doesn’t come close to real thing so my simple tip here for best practice and preparation, is that once you properly know pieces you are performing, get yourself in front of some mics and begin playing in a big space that way.