A big misconception about a person who seems to win all
time is that he always wins. In reality, if a person never fails, he is already sucking up to a rattlesnake as big as west Texas. A Blessing In Disguise!
One thing that a big honcho will never tell you is that; "it's ok to lose". But, speaking as a business man who has lost his pride and ego, I'm here to tell you, it is ok! In fact, it is critical. You see, losing is part of cycle of living.
As Solomon once said, there's a time to live and a time to die; a time to sow, a time to reap. There is a time for everything under sun. And unfortunately, losing is one of them. If some one never loses, how can they improve on what they've done?
They would just lie back, take it easy, suck up some suds, and wait on next fortune to fall in their lap so they could go crying all way to bank. But, that guy will never improve because he will never struggle.
But, At The End Of The Day!
To succeed and win everyone will sooner or later fail. I think we have somehow been programmed to think that losing is our enemy. But, all way from business man to elementary school child, losing is a cycle of living.
Losing can be a fantastic teacher, although an aggravating one. Losing can be just thing someone needs at any given point in their life. Losing can bring you wisdom which is far greater than silver and gold.
When Thomas Edison was asked how he was able to deal with ten thousand failures in inventing incandescent light bulb, he said, "I didn't fail; I just found ten thousand ways it wouldn't work."
Think about that wisdom that was passed on to our light bulb manufacturers today, they don't have to go through same failures that Edison went through; he passed it on to them.
As Plain As Black And White!
So, it was Edison's mistakes and wisdom that make silver and gold today for bulb manufacturers. The thing that losing teaches us and this is so important; it teaches us what NOT to do.
There is a God given desire in everyone of us to succeed and win. It is almost as strong as force of self-preservation. This is reason we get our knickers all in a twist when success doesn't come. Say this to yourself three times, "losing is ok, but I'm a winner."
Ah…Crystal Clear!
I read somewhere that Vince Lombardi once said, "winning isn't everything, it's only thing." I read somewhere else that Lombardi didn't say that. What he actually said was, "winning isn't everything, but making effort to win is." Umm.
Now, we've got a horse of a different color. By taking on any project with attitude of "effort", instead of winning at all costs, we spare ourselves self-inflicted mental torment that robs us of joy and makes us want to take a long walk off a short pier.
That last paragraph is so important you should really read it again. Listen: you cannot control outcome; all you can do is control effort!
If you're kind that personally takes all credit and pats yourself on back for every triumph, then remember this; a pat on back is only a few inches from a kick in bu**.
Face This Music!
Somebody also said if you can't accept losing, then you're not qualified to win. Losing is what makes a person fit to win!
To become a real winner in life, you have to test yourself. You have to be "willing" to reach beyond what you think you can really accomplish.
