Arguments - The losing side of a relationshipWritten by George Ministeri
In 34 years that I have been doing psychic counseling, it is only in past 10 years that I have been involved with couples counseling. One thing I have noticed with many couples, whether those couples are a man and a woman, two women, or two men, is that there is often a lack of real and meaningful communication. This lack of communication causes small conflicts to become heated arguments where issues are not resolved because both partners are trying to make their points and are not even listening to what other person has to say. Nothing can ever be resolved when one person raises his or her voice with what only appears to other person to be demands. The effect of this is that other person feels as if they are being scolded like a parent scolds a child and this causes person to close up in a defensive posturing attitude where they don't bother listening to what other person is saying. This intensifies problem because when person who is relating problem area in their life feels that they are being shut out, or ignored, by their partner there is no meaningful dialog which allows a resolution to be achieved. The only resolution to problem is for one or both partners to bring subject up again, which might only create same result. Instead of being resolved this issue now smolders like a hot ember, and this can make for an emotional forest fire!The way I try to resolve issues like this is to teach couples how to discuss issues instead of just yelling and having entire situation turning into World War III. There are several steps couples can take to have a good, open, and loving discussion, and to reduce friction in their relationship by learning to resolve very important issues that cause them to misunderstand each others feelings.
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When looking for a telecommuting position, it is very important to have your resume in tip-top shape. This is often only thing that a potential employer has to base a hiring decision on since they most likely will not be interviewing you in person, your resume has to make that great first impression for you. When your resume comes across fax line or is opened in an email, it needs to be presented as professionally as possible. Besides obvious typos and misuse of words, your resume needs to be highly organized and make a great impression as quickly as it reaches your potential employers hands. With some organizational skills and a little work your resume can be one that stands out. Where should you start, I would suggest starting with a list of your skills. Most people would probably not start in that manner but I think that it gives you a more positive basis to work from. When I speak of skills, I don't just mean how many words you type or that you can operate a hundred programs on your computer. Use skills from volunteering with every organization from school PTO to your church. You might be surprised when you really stop and think of everything that you learned while being an officer in PTO or organizing volunteers for Little League concession stand. All of these are skills can be effectively used when organizing your resume. Not only do they require leadership and organizational skills but an ability to work well with others.
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