Are you Creative?

Written by Amyn Lalji

What makes a person Great? Is it really something that is in one’s genes or is it something that one achieves over a period by going through ups and downs of life. Many people agree that great individuals whether they haverepparttar genes of greatness embedded in their DNA or they nurture it, all of them have one thing in common, their ability to look at things and situations differently. To look at something differently is what we call in a layman’s language as Creativity. Creativity is nothing but looking at situations and things from a totally different perspective. Unlike greatness, it is something that can be mastered by anyone, provided one knows how it really works.

Years of research on creativity show that creative individuals tend to have many characteristics that differentiate them from others inrepparttar 149495 realm of creativity. Most ofrepparttar 149496 research studies indicate that creative people are not necessarily geniuses (as we define and understandrepparttar 149497 term), but they are usually bright in seeing and capturing multiple perspectives of those thoughts that are conventional, and based on this, they keep creating number of ideas and options endlessly. Even though not allrepparttar 149498 ideas seem to make sense or could be termed as good ideas, butrepparttar 149499 sheer number of developing ideas is what makes them creative as compared torepparttar 149500 rest ofrepparttar 149501 lot. Creative

What to Do When Someone Offends You

Written by Susan Dunn MA, Professional Coach

Let’s say you’re sitting aroundrepparttar swimming pool and someone tells a joke about a group everyone knows you belong to. Or let’s say someone doesn’t know something about (like that you alphabetizerepparttar 149462 soup cans in your pantry at home) and makes a joke about people who alphabetizerepparttar 149463 soup cans in their pantry. Inrepparttar 149464 one case, you can pretty well assume they meant to offend you, personally, while inrepparttar 149465 other, it was unintentional.

Let’s talk about this sort of offending occurrence – not a direct attack about you in particular, or some sort of feedback, construed to be “positive,” where a quick reply is in order, butrepparttar 149466 sort of passive affront that sometimes occurs.

What do you do when someone says something offensive?

If it occurred inrepparttar 149467 workplace, and could be construed as harassment, you might have certain legal rights, but they certainly don’t extend to a public recreational area. Laws define what a society considers unacceptable but they never stop them, otherwise there would be no murders. Furthermore, you’d be surprised at whatrepparttar 149468 law considers “harassment.” So, let’s move this torepparttar 149469 individual and emotional level.

It’s a sad fact of life that you don’t have a global right not to be offended, butrepparttar 149470 corollary is, no one can offend you unless you agree to it.

You’re more likely to be offended,repparttar 149471 more truth there is to what they say, in reference to you, and it can be a clue to look into your issues. I live in Texas, where for some peoplerepparttar 149472 Civil War is still being fought, and it used to bother me when someone would make a reference to Northerners being “cold” and “unfriendly.” The more I’ve learned to express my warmth and friendliness in ways recognizable to Texans and more importantly, to be comfortable in my own skin,repparttar 149473 less those comments bother me. Now I can just smile and think, “not me,” while before I had to wonder how I was coming across.

Asrepparttar 149474 philosopher Epictetus wrote many years ago, “It is not he who gives abuse that affronts, butrepparttar 149475 view that we take of it as insulting; so that when one provokes you it is your own opinion which is provoking.”

You can learn not to take offense. One ofrepparttar 149476 people I learned this through wasrepparttar 149477 Jewish physician sitting at an Ecumenical conference I attended where someone stood up and talked about Christmas, then caught himself, and turned torepparttar 149478 physician and said, “Oh, I’m sorry, I hope I didn’t offend you.”

The doctor smiled and replied, very, very gently, “Me? You can’t offend me.”

That rather putsrepparttar 149479 shoe onrepparttar 149480 other foot.

I will occasionally defend myself as part ofrepparttar 149481 group under attack, likerepparttar 149482 time my neighbor – and I don’t know what he was thinking – started in aboutrepparttar 149483 apartment complex to be built inrepparttar 149484 vacant acreage behind our houses. “It will be full of single parents with out-of-control kids, who don’t take care of their property,” he ranted.

“I’m a single parent,” I said. “And my kids aren’t out-of-control and I take care of my property.” One might just as well reply, “I’m XXX and I don’t beat my wife,” or “I have a good friend who’s from XXX, and he’s very friendly.” You can always point out one example you know that’s different. No generalization applies to anything and everything, and people who think that way need to have their thinking correcting. If only atrepparttar 149485 intellectual level.

The crux ofrepparttar 149486 matter is not to buy into it emotionally, not to takerepparttar 149487 bait. When we get emotional, we lose our ability to think, and then things get said. It also leaves us angry, upset, and harboring resentment. There are few ways to reply back to an offense that don’t leave you in a worse emotional state. That includes going back over it in your own mind if you DON’T speak up and berating yourself because you didn’t. It’s a perfectly viable alternative to decline comment and disengage.

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