Are Your Kid's Exams Causing You Stress?Written by Carol Shepley
When it comes to exams, or indeed any academic work, parents feel that they should be encouraging their teen to try hard and do well. The problem is that in trying to achieve this, many parents end up causing stress either for themselves, their teen or both.So what causes this stress? Basically, it boils down to one key belief; a belief held by many parents and one that is reinforced by most schools. To do well you must work hardConsequently parents spend much of their time trying to get their teens to word hard. The sad fact is that there are some students who could work hard for rest of their life and still achieve only mediocre results. And then there are other students who appear to put in very little effort and still do well. This belief leads parents to think one of two things, either their teen is working hard enough or they're not. Either way, unhelpful stress can still be a problem. If your teen is working hard enough Usually person who gets over-stressed in this situation is teen. The parent's role here is to help their teen manage stress. Beware of 'going over top' in encouraging your teen; let them know that even if they don't achieve exactly what they want it's not end of world. Remind them that there is usually more than one way to get to where they want to go and that you'll be there to support them on whichever path they take. Of course you can only do that if you believe it yourself. If you are very fixed in your own beliefs about what's possible and what's not, then you're going to feel stress as well. The danger here is that your stress will add to that of your teen's. To avoid getting in this situation, explore what other options are available in eventuality that things do not turn out in way you want. If your teen is not working hard enough In this situation person feeling stress is you, parent. Most parents will try one or more of following methods. - Giving advice Many parents will try motivating their teen by telling them how important it is to do well in exam, how having good results will give them more choice and they will have a better chance of getting a job/going to college. Alternatively, if internal exams are involved, message is about doing well so they can get into 'right' groups or sets next year.
This form of motivation is unlikely to work, as it is often too general. Teens have heard all of these messages before so why should they act differently this time?
| | The 411 On Natural Baby Colic RemediesWritten by Jacqueline Courtiol, M.A. Ed.
Any parent whose baby has suffered from colic can tell you that colic is one of most excruciating experiences ever imaginable. Nothing is worse than seeing one’s baby in pain and not being able to help take it away. Finding relief for colic quickly becomes a top priority. There are many different colic remedies that may come to rescue for your particular baby. Each baby is unique and may only respond to some or a combination of colic remedies. Unfortunately, parents may have to use old trial and error method to determine which provide greatest amount of relief for their little colic sufferer. One thing is certain, days of waiting it out are long gone for those determined to find an answer. There is no need to suffer needlessly along with baby. If you have tried all proper feeding and burping techniques and baby is still crying, try following list of most effective remedies available:#1 Music / Sound - Traditional lullabies, classical music composed for infants and heartbeat/womb CDs are very popular external remedies that relax many babies suffering from colic. You can find some particularly good ones at Slumber Sounds web site. Some parents have had great success by placing baby in car seat on top of running dishwasher, washing machine, dryer or near running vacuum cleaner. A gentle shhhhhhhing sound in ear can work magic, as can soft whispers and humming or singing. #2 Diet - Bottle fed babies with colic may show improvement if switched to a different formula, such as soy. The mothers of breastfed babies may have to pay close attention to their own diet to make sure that babies are not having negative reactions to certain foods. Try eliminating following common culprits one at a time for a week to see if there are any signs of improvement for baby: dairy, caffeine, chocolate and gas-producing foods such as broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, onions, peppers, melons, tomatoes, citrus fruits, beans and peanuts. #3 Gripe Water - Be sure to check ingredients before buying a gripe water. Many claim to be natural but include artificial ingredients and preservatives. Colicky infants’ digestive systems certainly do not need any of these potential irritants. Some gripe waters are not very helpful. There is a new, very effective and safe gripe water on market, which you can purchase online at http://www.coliccalm.com
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