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most important question you’ll ever ask yourself. Let’s face it, our relationships are extremely important. Yet, often they are cause of pain and struggle. Single or not, societal standards convince us that we can have it all. Much of available relationship advice compels us to go after everything we want. Sadly, for many it is not working. Climbing divorce rates and more singles seeking love are proof that our attitudes are counterproductive. Our expectations have become highly unrealistic. Rarely do we look in mirror and ask: Am I fit to love? Today's relationships are failing because of deterioration of character. It is time we made a point of building long-term relationship success based on strength of our characters, instead of clever-minded relationship strategies.
Great relationships require great characters. We simply must become better people for each other. Becoming fit to love is a powerful wake-up call for brave. It will dramatically improve our relationships or our chances of finding love.
The happiest people are those in exceptional relationships. They are heavily invested in their most valuable asset: their relationship and have an abundance of life’s most precious commodity: love. They all have one thing in common: they are fit to love. At heart of all exceptional relationships are three universal principles: mutual respect, moral responsibility and authenticity and here is what it means:
Mutual Respect: Your partner is just as important as you.
Our partner’s dreams and hopes are as important as our own. This principle requires us to think of our partner as our equal. Given that our generation has made history as ambassadors of our “me first” society, we are more concerned with getting what we want.
For Bill, everything revolves around golfing. He spends every weekend at golf course while his wife, Jane, looks after their two small children. Extra money from their already tight budget is spent on Bill’s hobby. Stuck at home with toddlers, Jane has little freedom to do or buy anything special. Despite Jane’s complaints Bill seems completely aloof to fact that he is disrespectful.
Relationship conflicts arise because of different perspectives. Lovers argue over who is right, instead solving issue in their mutual best interest. The struggle over unresolved issues leads to resentment even when there is love. Love and respect take a backseat and relationship deteriorates. This dangerous game is reason why many relationships fail, when they shouldn’t. Instead of trying to change each other or putting our needs first, we must realize that our partner is just as important. In grabbing hold of our partner’s beliefs we show that we respect our partner. If conflict arises and we cannot agree, we should simply agree to disagree and continue to talk with respect. Without mutual respect, it is impossible to create loving relationships.
Moral Responsibility: You are always morally responsible to those with whom you have relationships.
We live in a society that elevates self-fulfillment above anything else. We seek self-fulfillment at any cost, even at cost of others. Regardless of how often we have heard that we are not responsible for our partner’s happiness, we are still responsible for his or her well-being. Love is a moral responsibility to another person. We blame our partners if things do not work out without looking in mirror to see our own flaws. Yet, everything we think, say or do affects those we love.
