Are Women From Utopia And Men From Wal-Mart?Written by Allie Ochs
It is surprising how many writers, psychologists, or scientists have made it their life’s work focusing on gender differences. In our male-dominated society it is no coincidence that men have undertaken bulk of this work. They made an effort to help men and women get along, but deep down sexes are much more alike than world cares to admit.Today, most believe that men and women are significantly different in every respect. The focus on these differences has divided men and women, instead of bringing them closer together. More importantly, it discourages both sexes to grow and unify on a human level. Still viewed as inferior sex, women feel compelled to assume utopian attributes such as nurturing to extreme and giving to point of running empty. Women are expected to live up to expectations of their families, employers and society. To add to their burden, they ought to stay slim, sexy, attractive, loving, caring and emotionally balanced. In their attempts to meet these expectations, many women lose their identities, values, self-worth and even their minds. In contrast, “superior” male sex has been praised for its Wal-Mart attributes of being realistic, practical, efficient and logical. Consequently, men still run country, hold most of assets and control majority of public and economic affairs. Yet, men experience their own stress in a competitive world that expects them to be pillar of their families. Many men are still programmed to be sole economic provider in their families and suffer their own anxieties. Feeling pressure of maintaining an affluent lifestyle or even just making ends meet, many become workaholics, grow bellies, lose their hair and become candidates for heart attacks. Both men and women alike experience stress trying to be super-humans in a society in which they feel they never quite “cut it.” Preoccupation with differences often prevents men and women from asking each other for help. Consequently, both suffer silently through their own pain blaming each other for their differences and lack of understanding: “Men are never this” and “Women are always that.” As a result of generalization of their differences, men “shut down” and women turn to friends, therapy or medication. The outcomes are unfulfilling, frustrating relationships that increase stress or even lead to divorce. Consequently, we wonder whether men failed women, or vice versa. So much effort and money has been spent (and made) on exaggerating emotional, intellectual and communicative differences between sexes that we indeed believe ourselves to be from different planets. We must look beyond differences and realize that women cannot live without Wal-Mart, nor can men live without utopia. Women need Wal-Mart for practical, logical and task-oriented aspects of their lives and, in fact, may be shopping at Wal-Mart more often than men. On other hand, men need utopia to experience all beauty and humanity of life, and are visiting utopia more frequently than they admit. We are all from same planet. It is about time we bridged gap between sexes and realized that we are human beings with many of same needs, desires, dreams and hopes.
| | Honeymoon Vacation Ideas can be EconomicalWritten by Randy Wilson
The purpose of honeymoon vacation is only minimally to live for a few days like extravagant royalty. The real purpose is for and your loved one to have most beautiful and memorable experience of your lives. Decide exactly how much you really can afford to spend, and spend it all (but not more). It's always good to be frugal, but don't be stingy! After all, this is your honeymoon.Honeymoon vacations are even more important than your typical week away from work. Do all planning in advance - and make contingency plans, as well - to make sure you and your spouse will be totally free from stress for entire occasion. A travel agent will have an array of honeymoon vacation packages for destinations all over world. These include a stay at an all-inclusive resort, a rental vehicle, and a schedule of various activities for your entertainment. Since just about everything is included in price of package, you can end up paying less than if you had booked it all separately. A "prefab" honeymoon vacation package will provide some bang for your buck, but there are also some issues to keep in mind. For one thing, there is only so much that can be done to customize experience to your preferences - and doing this can add to price. During certain times of year, more traditional honeymoon vacation spots can be teeming with tourists and fellow honeymooners. Ask your travel agent for some statistics to help you book a destination during its off-peak season.
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