Anger and the American Family: 3 Steps to Diffuse Family by Changing Your Inner Conversations

Written by Dr. Tony Fiore

Case #1: Jeanette and Tom had been married 15 years. Wanting to surprise him for his birthday, Jeanette, with her own money, bought Tom a big-screen LCD television.

Tom’s reaction? He instantly blew up and berated Jeanette for spending so much money—buying more television than they needed, a bigger model than they had previously looked at together.

Jeanette was dumbfounded at Tom’s reaction; she truly thought this would be a gift that would greatly please him.

Case #2: Jim was having a friendly beer with his brother-in-law Jack whenrepparttar discussion turned to Jack’s success in life. Wanting to compliment him, Jim commented on how far he had come, how proud of himself he must be and how much he is an inspiration to others, given his background with alcoholic and dysfunctional parents.

Rather than seeing this as a compliment, however, Jack became offended and angry. He berated Jim for “putting him down," as he interpreted Jim’s comment.

Views cause anger

As these examples clearly show, people are not disturbed by things or events, but by their view of them, as Epictetusan—a Greek philosopher—observed early inrepparttar 149203 2nd century.

When an upsetting family event occurs, you have a choice of how you are going to explain it to yourself—what you are going to tell yourself about it. This will influence how angry, stressed, or upset, you become overrepparttar 149204 event.

Learning to change what you tell yourself —your self-talk— can breakrepparttar 149205 cycle of negativity that can often poison our minds when we get angry. We all have 'scripts' in our minds that tell us messages and stories about family members and how they behave.

Tom, who exploded when his loving wife bought him a new television, was telling himself things like: she has such poor judgment-buying a bigger TV than we need; there she goes again, spending money excessively; why can’t she ever do what I want her to do? Why did I marry such a woman?

Of course, none of these things made any sense to Tom once he cooled down and became his rational self again. But, atrepparttar 149206 moment of anger explosion, Tom’s self-statements seem 100% true to him.

Is Coaching Everything That It Is Cracked Up To Be?

Written by Allie Ochs

Personal or business coaching has helped thousands change their lives and achieve their goals. Yet, forrepparttar sceptics it still is a fuzzy concept with little recognition for its benefits. Think of Celine Dion, who with a voice coach claimed world fame. Her coach unleashed what is known today as one ofrepparttar 149202 most mesmerizing voices inrepparttar 149203 world.

Is coaching just a buzzword to capture another niche market of those seeking instant gratification and onrepparttar 149204 spot success?

Let’s take a look at good fitness coach. He gets into your mind and pinpoints what motivates you and which exercises you enjoy. He designs a program with your physical condition and goals in mind. Your fitness coach teaches you how to properly use equipment and reach your target. He is right at your side helping you to getrepparttar 149205 most out of your workout. He challenges you to reach your goals and believes that you can do it. He is always a step ahead of you and more interested in your success than you. Most people go torepparttar 149206 gym hoping to get results on their own. For many it is not until they get a coach that positive changes start to happen.

Relationship coaching for singles or couples is no different. Most singles plough throughrepparttar 149207 smorgasbord of hyped dating avenues hoping to find their one-and-only. Couples in unhappy relationships try to solve conflicts on their own, wait for a miracle or leave. Reportedly, those who reach out to a coach have made remarkable progress in relative short time spans. Coaching has become a source of real help for real people inrepparttar 149208 real world.

Just like inrepparttar 149209 case of Celine Dion, a relationship coach unleashesrepparttar 149210 best of you. Whether you are in a relationship or single, a coach knows that you have everything inside to realize your relationship potential. Relationship/dating coaching is not a long, drawn-out process. People have achieved success in as little as 4-6 sessions. The focus of coaching is in on moving forward from where you.

Coaching empowers you to move beyondrepparttar 149211 past and take a different approach to dating or relationship conflict resolution. It is this direct, head-on approach that leads to desired change. Coaching is about results and positive changes. A good coach will support, guide and challenge you to action. He or she will share new skills, knowledge and insights unavailable before. Through coaching you will gain a new leash on love and life:

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