Anger and Your Driving: How to Cope With Dangerous Emotions (Part 1)

Written by Dr. Tony Fiore


Are you driving underrepparttar influence of impaired emotions? Dateline: December 4, 2002. Orange County, California. A 29 year old man was shot to death, an apparent victim of road rage. According to newspaper accounts, he had a reputation for never backing down from a fight.

The man and his half-brother were heading home from a plumbing job whenrepparttar 130127 trouble began. Apparently, three men in another car zoomed in front of their car. These men started hurling profanities and flashing obscene gestures atrepparttar 130128 brothers, who returnedrepparttar 130129 insults.

Things escalated until a gun was pulled. Rather than backing down,repparttar 130130 man got out of his car and began walking towardrepparttar 130131 gunman. Two shots rang out, missingrepparttar 130132 man who continued to walk towardrepparttar 130133 gunman until he was shot and killed.

While this tragic incident is illustrative of an extreme case of aggressive driving, there are thousands of lesser cases inrepparttar 130134 United States yearly. According torepparttar 130135 AAA Foundation for Traffic Safety, incidents of aggressive driving have increased by 7% every year since 1990; however, few courts mandate anger management for traffic offenders.

Five Zones of Aggressive Driving: Research by Dr. Leon James atrepparttar 130136 University of Hawaii reveals five categories of aggressive driving. Which zone do you or a loved one fall in?

-The Unfriendly Zone: Example – closing ranks to deny someone entering your lane because you’re frustrated or upset.

-The Hostile Zone: Example – Tailgating to pressure another driver to go faster or get out ofrepparttar 130137 way.

-The Violent Zone: Example – Making visible obscene gestures at another driver.

-The Less Mayhem Zone: Example – Pursuing other cars in a chase because of provocation or insult.

-The Major Mayhem Zone: Example – Getting out ofrepparttar 130138 car and beating or battering someone as a result of road rage.

Like drunk driving, aggressive driving is more than a simple action or carelessness; it is a choice. According to Dr. James and his research team, drivers who consider themselves as almost perfect in excellence (with no room to improve) also confessed to significantly more aggressiveness than drivers who see themselves as still improving.

How to Track Your Right Career

Written by Jody Gothard and Cardell Phillips


How to Track Your Right Career - By Jody Gothard and Cardell Phillips Are you lost inrepparttar wilderness when it comes to choosing a career? Once, we knewrepparttar 130124 way. As children, we played at different roles, but some became our favorites. Those favorites hinted at our gifts. They pointedrepparttar 130125 way to our exciting futures as entrepreneurs, dancers or astronauts. We did what was fun, and, inrepparttar 130126 process, we began to find and follow our paths.

As young adults, however, our paths began to fade under thickets of obstacles: other people's expectations, poor self-esteem and /or lack of faith. But,repparttar 130127 good news is that, for each of us,repparttar 130128 path is still out there. A cover of tangled weeds may hide its course, but it's still there.

A few tracking lessons can put you back inrepparttar 130129 hunt. An expert tracker can follow a trail that's been cold for days, months, or even years. Trackers like this can track over any terrain, under all kinds of weather, and even inrepparttar 130130 dark of night. Tracking, however, is not just about following a set of prints inrepparttar 130131 dirt.

The physical skill of observation constitutes only about 10% of what it takes to be a good tracker. The other 90% consists of awareness and intuition. Here's how you can apply tracking techniques to your career hunt.

OBSERVATION

The first step a would-be tracker takes is to develop his or her powers of observation to a razor-sharp edge. Calledrepparttar 130132 "eye ofrepparttar 130133 tracker," it'srepparttar 130134 ability to discern a large amount of information fromrepparttar 130135 environment with a glance.

Students spend years engaged in study and first - hand observation, or "dirt time" as it's called, to gain an intimate knowledge ofrepparttar 130136 natural environment and habits of animals. For instance, when trackers wants to see animals, they know where to look for them. They'll look in areas such as onrepparttar 130137 edges of forests and fields, at times of transition like twilight, or right before or after a storm.

Inrepparttar 130138 process of masteringrepparttar 130139 facts,repparttar 130140 tracker cultivates "the eye ofrepparttar 130141 tracker," a questioning awareness that sees beyondrepparttar 130142 obvious. They constantly ask themselves, "What happened here?" and "What does this mean?"

Transition For Careers

After you find a career that excites you, do some "dirt time." Educate yourself aboutrepparttar 130143 skills you'll need, whererepparttar 130144 industry congregates, andrepparttar 130145 mental states ofrepparttar 130146 people who work inrepparttar 130147 field.

Next, get some practical experience. Take a class, find a mentor, or work inrepparttar 130148 field on a part-time basis. Find out what you're getting into before you commit.

If you're still interested inrepparttar 130149 field after you've done your research, you'll findrepparttar 130150 time it takes to build a new career. Maybe you'll have to go back to school and survive on less money for awhile. You might have to make that sacrifice, but you'll feel excited and have a sense of accomplishment.

Once you have clarity, you're halfway there. After that, your mind starts looking for ways to help you reach your goals, so watch forrepparttar 130151 signs.

AWARENESS

Trackers often find themselves in dangerous environments, and when they do, they use everything they have in order to survive. To enhance their chances for survival, they continually develop their powers of observation, which leads them to ever-deeper levels of awareness of their environment.

In practice, they'll focus on details like tracks, but they stay aware ofrepparttar 130152 sounds, colors, shapes, and smells ofrepparttar 130153 environment atrepparttar 130154 same time. This technique is known by many names such as "peak awareness," "soft-focus" and "splatter vision." It's like looking through a camera with a wide-angle lens attached.

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