Are men really from Mars, and women from Venus?
The age-old question as to 'what women want,' is still left unanswered to men. Even when we reflect upon 2000 film, What Women Want - lead character, Nick Marshall (played by Mel Gibson) seems to have all answers. But does he really?
Is it an inevitable fact that men and women are predestined not to clearly understand one another?
I vividly recall a playtime conversation between my son and daughter when they were just preschoolers. In amusement, I watched as my son took his metal matchbox cars and drove them all over his roadmap carpet. 'Vroom...vroom...' he mumbled. And there beside him, sat my three-year old daughter, tightly clasping her little fingers around her own two cars. Adamantly, she waved them in front of her older brother's face and attempted to make her cars have 'dialogue' with his cars. After a few moments of no response, (other than 'vroom, vroom'), my daughter quickly became frustrated.
She folded her arms and marched over to me, "...Mom, Ryan isn't playing right," she said matter-of-factly.
Initially, I wanted to chuckle but I knew she was quite serious. I asked her, "...what do you mean - he is not playing right?"
She blew out a huff and responded, "...I want his cars to talk to my cars and all he does is crash his cars into mine!"
Peering over her head, I saw that my son was unnerved and oblivious to his sister's obvious irritation. While she stood there with absolute disgust, he continued playing with his metal vehicles.
It was at that point that I let out a little giggle, and I gave her a simple answer, "...sweetie, boys like to play and girls like to talk."
It may not have been answer she was seeking, but this tiny event has shed some light to a wide-spectrum issue in two, very different sexes. Throughout life, I have personally learned that men are action-oriented, whereas women are interaction-oriented. And from personal experience, I have seen that many of these attributes are innate traits stemming back to prehistoric times where males were considered hunter/gatherers and females, considered nurturers.
While human evolution has dramatically evolved with modern technology; longer, healthier life spans and overall improved communication skills - it seems that men and women still do not speak same language.
Inherently, men use interactions to fulfill essential purposes: entertainment, information communication, task completion, and other related needs. Women on other hand, prefer to interact to deepen levels of relationships - to better understand their counterpart, or to bring about resolution through interaction. In other words, when men and women communicate, we hear same dialogue, but we perceive and practice verbal communications very differently.
As with case of my own two children, my son was absolutely clueless to my daughter's aggravation because he was preoccupied with his own actions. My daughter, however, was intent on interacting with him, and could not understand why he was ignoring her.