Aim for the Future ... but don't get ulcers waiting for it to happen!

Written by Edward B. Toupin

It is always good to aim for a vision, to pursue a goal, and make your dreams come true. However, there's a difference between chasing your dreams and anticipatingrepparttar outcome ofrepparttar 101889 dreams. The main idea behind dreaming and pursuing your goals is to provide a sense of direction with positive action. One mistake many people make is that, once they define a vision and set goals, they just sit there and wait for something to happen. They wait for what "will" happen instead of enjoying and participating in what "is" happening. To make fulfilling, don't anticipaterepparttar 101890 future ... live inrepparttar 101891 present and work to attain your dreams ofrepparttar 101892 future.

--- It'll be great, when ... ---

When will it be great? Whenrepparttar 101893 great event happens? Whenrepparttar 101894 vision shows itself? The problem is that, when this great expectation comes about, you'll be so frustrated from waiting that you'll miss it. Onrepparttar 101895 other hand, by simply sitting there and waiting,repparttar 101896 event may never happen because you didn't do anything to make it happen. Basically, you were busy waiting instead of busy doing.

One ofrepparttar 101897 big mistakes that people make is that they live in a world that doesn't yet exist. They make lofty goals and have big dreams then they place all of their feelings, emotions, and being into what they "think" it will be like when their dreams come true. In fact,repparttar 101898 dream may never come true, or it will change. Perhaps, you will realize thatrepparttar 101899 dream you were chasing is not what you wanted inrepparttar 101900 first place. However, you'll never know if you just sit there and wait.

As you wait for this spectacular moment to occur, you're missing out on everything that's happening now. You're missing out on life. This is whererepparttar 101901 frustration comes intorepparttar 101902 picture. You know you'll feel different inrepparttar 101903 future, but at this moment, you feel rotten, lost, or disenchanted. Part ofrepparttar 101904 reason is because you're betting on something that may never happen. The other reason is that you're not actively doing anything to achieverepparttar 101905 goals that sit in your future.

--- Aim for it, don't anticipate it! ---

When you feel that your life is not movingrepparttar 101906 way you want it to, you need to reevaluate your life and set a target. This target isrepparttar 101907 vision of where you want to be, or see yourself, inrepparttar 101908 future. Once you know your vision, you have to establish a mission, or a plan of attack, to reach your vision. Your goals are thenrepparttar 101909 steps alongrepparttar 101910 mission andrepparttar 101911 actions that you must execute to performrepparttar 101912 mission successfully.

Balancing Act ... That's all life is!

Written by Edward B. Toupin

One ofrepparttar most knowledgeable and intuitive ladies I know imparted upon merepparttar 101888 ultimate knowledge of living a fulfilling life. As I awaited a long, heartfelt soliloquy, she took a small breath, pointed her finger and said, "balance." That was it. My only question was, "what?" She simply chuckled and walked away.

Overrepparttar 101889 years, I slowly began to understand her single word. It wasn't an easy lesson as, in my head, I was balanced. But,repparttar 101890 true understanding of balance comes when you realize that you are truly out of balance. In life, whether you know it or not, you're always out of balance in one way or another. But, your "only" job in life is to work toward attaining balance and keeping that balance in your life.

--- My only job? ---

To reiterate ... your "only" job in life is to attain balance and keep balance in your life. That's it! Life is just that simple. That is, if you want it to be. To explain this concept, let's consider a few elements of an average life:

1. You have a job. 2. You have a wife. 3. You have kids. 4. You have a house. 5. You have a car. 6. You go fishing on weekends to get away from it all. 7. You have a hobby.

For most people, each one of these life components seem to exist as separate entities and they all affect one another. This is whererepparttar 101891 problems begin. You spend too much time at work and you're tired when you get home. In turn, you don't have time to spend withrepparttar 101892 wife and kids. Your money goes outrepparttar 101893 window to pay for everything includingrepparttar 101894 house andrepparttar 101895 car. You have to get away, by yourself to go fishing, or whatever, so you can re-gather your strength to do it all over againrepparttar 101896 next week. You love your hobby and want to do it full time, but you just can't findrepparttar 101897 time. This situation can drag you down and cause strain on your job, your family, and your life in general.

However, did you ever stop and think that all of these "different" life components are actually smaller parts of one larger component? Instead of viewing them as separate pieces of life, view them as beingrepparttar 101898 aspects that make up your "one and only life." Since it's obvious that these individual elements all interact in one way or another, why not let them? Instead of allowing one to interfere withrepparttar 101899 other, learn how to allow them to enhancerepparttar 101900 direction of your life.

--- It's a lonely job ... ---

Once you are able to understand howrepparttar 101901 different components of your life all fit together and enhance one another. Your next task is to determine how you can balance these components to provide a greater level of satisfaction and fulfillment. This is your first project as "Manager of Your Own Life."

* Job

So many people are scared to lose their jobs so they pour their souls into it for hours at a time. The single job appears to berepparttar 101902 only thing that can help you survive and eventually becomes your entire life. But, what isrepparttar 101903 benefit from overworking yourself? Since most people are on salary, whether you work eight hours or 18 hours a day, you're paidrepparttar 101904 same.

A job is only a part of your life and a way to provide security for yourself and your family as well as satisfaction for yourself. It is not your life. Evaluate your abilities and determine if it'srepparttar 101905 job orrepparttar 101906 money that you want. If it'srepparttar 101907 money, then you must learn to find something that pays you what you want. If it'srepparttar 101908 job, then you must learn how to rearrangerepparttar 101909 job for greater fulfillment and prioritize to best meetrepparttar 101910 needs ofrepparttar 101911 rest of your life.

Realize that "loyalty to employees" is a thing ofrepparttar 101912 past and thatrepparttar 101913 old family-oriented corporate giants no longer exist. You have to watch out for yourself and ensure your own security. Security is important to you and your family and it is something that you must establish for yourself.

I found that, in my time in Corporate America, regardless of what I achieved, I was not happy. After much searching and reorganizing of my life, I found that I neededrepparttar 101914 freedom of freelancing. I found that once I was able to center my talents and use them to their fullest, I could make more money working for myself than in an office for someone else. I was able to obtainrepparttar 101915 balance I needed by working a flexible schedule at home to be with my family, doing something that I loved, and still makerepparttar 101916 money necessary to providerepparttar 101917 security for my family.

* Family

In most cases, when it's a toss-up betweenrepparttar 101918 job andrepparttar 101919 family,repparttar 101920 family will lose out. However, pressures from home and family can affect your job and other aspects of your life. By adjusting your priorities at work and determining what it is that's important, you can better balancerepparttar 101921 conflicts that exist betweenrepparttar 101922 need for security with work andrepparttar 101923 need to satisfyrepparttar 101924 family.

Believe it or not,repparttar 101925 family does provide an intense sense of purpose and satisfaction in one's life. It is something to be proud of and cherished because it is something that you've created. If you feel that your family has stalled or it doesn't providerepparttar 101926 satisfaction you desire, then you need to evaluaterepparttar 101927 reasons why things have changed. Perhaps your time at work is taking away from your family. Perhapsrepparttar 101928 stresses fromrepparttar 101929 outside world are affecting your family life.

One ofrepparttar 101930 things that I've learned with my family is that, when all else fails, my wife is always there. We've been through some serious situations ranging from fires and floods to death and destruction. We even built two homes, remodeled another, and relocated to another state. Yet my wife and I are still together and we are happier now than ever before. The reason is that, even though we are two totally different people, our objectives arerepparttar 101931 same. Our objectives were not alwaysrepparttar 101932 same, but we tookrepparttar 101933 time to sit down and decide on what we wanted together and what we wanted separately. Now, we are able to help each other as well as stay out of each other's way so that we can reach our objectives.

* Finances

Many people place a lot of value on money. But, money is not an objective. Money is a way to provide security for yourself and your family. Money is a way to measure success. Money is a means to reach an objective. However, this one needs some explanation.

How much money is enough? If you say you want to make a lot of money, how much is that? The amount of money that becomes "enough" is not measurable. It is simply a moving target that becomes consuming because there is no real metric to determine when you've reached your goal. However, if you set an objective that you want to live comfortably and own a nice house, then you now have a metric to measure your success.

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