Addiction to SpiritualityWritten by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as author resource box at end is included, with hyperlinks. Notification of publication would be appreciated.For other articles which you are free to use, see http://www.innerbonding.com Title: Addiction to Spirituality Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2005 by Margaret Paul URL: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 745 Category: Self Improvement Addiction to Spirituality Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Lian had been meditating for many years before consulting with me for his depression. He had been part of a spiritual community that encouraged their members to turn to God through prayer and meditation whenever they were feeling any difficult or painful feelings such as anger, hurt, anxiety, or depression. He had been taught that Spirit would transmute his feelings for him and bring him peace he sought. Yet Lian was depressed. “I have faithfully practiced what I’ve had been taught, so why am I still depressed? What am I doing wrong?” Lian was suffering from what is called “spiritual bypass.” Spiritual bypass occurs when people use their spiritual practice as a way to avoid dealing with and taking responsibility for their feelings. Anything that is used to avoid feeling and taking responsibility for feelings becomes an addiction – whether it is alcohol, drugs, food, TV, work, gambling, spending, shopping, anger, withdrawal…and meditation. If, when a difficult or painful feeling comes up, you immediately go into meditation in hopes of blissing out and getting rid of feeling, you may be addicted to spirituality. It all depends on what your intent is when you are meditating. People can meditate for two totally different reasons: to avoid pain or to learn about love. If you are meditating to connect with yourself and your spiritual Guidance in order to learn more about loving yourself and others, then meditation is a good way to get out of your head and into your heart. It is a good way to connect with a loving part of yourself so that you can welcome and embrace your painful feelings and learn what you may be doing or thinking that is causing your own pain. When your intent is to be loving to yourself and take responsibility for your own feelings, then meditation can help you become centered and compassionate enough to do an inner exploration with your feeling self.
| | Adjust the Thermostat of the MindWritten by Tony Papajohn
Summary: Our first impressions about money, work, and relationships are lasting unless we choose to change them with new information.First impressions are lasting ones. If those first impressions aren’t good ones, modify them with new information or live with consequences. The first impression we get of just about anything looms large in our psyches. This first impression, for good or ill, will resonate for a long time unless we do something constructive and conscious to change it. Our first impression of a person is an excellent example. Suppose someone strikes us as friendly, jovial, sullen, or arrogant. Unless we later realize that we caught person on a particularly good or bad day, first impression will linger. Reinforce that first impression continuously with emotional power and mind quickly turns those first impressions into a thermostat. This means that our thoughts, feelings, and reactions are set just like a living room thermostat. Even if we open and close windows, mechanism will keep room at same temperature.
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