Accepting Your Healing

Each type of illness is associated with a particular way of being. There is a personality type associated with heart disease, there is another associated with cancer, another with nearsightedness, etc. The person’s way of being has had stress associated with it, and that stress has reached physical level, manifesting as a symptom. When someone wants to release a symptom, they must release way of being that was associated with symptom, and which, in fact, created it. Releasing stress from consciousness allows them to then have different perceptions, and a different way of being. There is a change in nature of bubble, filter of perceptions through which they see world. Said another way, since our perceptions create our reality, there is a change or movement from one bubble to another, from one reality to another, from one paradigm to another. Thus, we can say that process of healing implies a process of transformation. In experience of this writer, recovery from catastrophic illness is always accompanied by a change in person's way of being. They change, or else continue to manifest symptoms until they die. Those who change are able to see things differently in their life, and to notice that things happen in ways different from before. They are able, through having different experiences, to define different beliefs. Or, they are able to first define different beliefs, and then have different experiences. The important thing, in either case, is to release old perceptions that have been based on old experiences, if those perceptions have resulted in a tense way of interacting with environment. One way to achieve this reprogramming, this perception modification, is by recognizing element of time as a possible distorting influence in our internal programs and perceptions, and choosing to not prejudice our positive view of present and future by our negative experience of past. For example, someone might have a program in his or her human biocomputer that says, “Every time I see that person, I get a headache!” Then, given person, headache is expected, so that individual has a chance to affirm that truth, program that is believed to be true, and therefore, is true for them. Unfortunately, program always results in a headache, so although program is very effective and efficient, result is something unpleasant. To release program while still acknowledging what is true, we can describe it as having been true in past. Then, program would say, “Every time that I have seen that person, I have gotten a headache - but next time might be different. Perhaps other person has realized error of his or her ways, or has become enlightened, or transformed (it’s always a change in other person). For next time, I’ll see what happens and what is true then.” Then, direct experience can show that something different is, in fact, true. “Wow! This person really is different - and actually, quite pleasant to be around! I’m sure I will never again get a headache from being around this person.” From that moment, with those words, a new belief is created, and new perceptions are allowed, and a new reality is created with new belief. If you are interested in experiencing process of healing, and therefore, process of transformation, what is particularly important is way you describe yourself to yourself. This is because words that you use to describe your experience create your reality, and you are interested in creation of a different reality in which you feel better than you did before. Thus, it’s important to pay attention to words that you use to describe yourself. If you are describing some trait you do not find particularly successful (I’m shy, or afraid of success, or naturally irritable, etc.), then with your words, leave it in past, making room for a different perception in present, and also future (“I was shy, or have been afraid of success, or had been irritable because I was not really being myself, etc.). In that way, you will be able to more easily dis-identify with and therefore let go of old ideas, and old tensions associated with symptoms to be released. The same is true about words you use to describe symptom to be released. Consider element of time, and be able to describe symptom to yourself as you experience in present moment. If you say, “It hurts all day,” you may not be noticing that, in fact, it doesn’t hurt so much right now. If you say, “The symptom comes and goes,” and if you do not experience it right now, you expect it to return. It is more effective to describe your experience in present moment, acknowledging what is true now, and with a positive orientation toward a positive future (“It’s better now than it has been. In fact, it really seems to be getting better and better.”) The positive mental attitude is, of course, an element useful for enjoying best quality of life achievable. For process of healing, however, it is essential. Whatever you visualize, you improve probability of happening. The images or pictures that you put into your consciousness have more of a tendency to happen. If you continue to put into your consciousness pictures of yourself suffering, you tend to continue that condition. It does not even matter what emotion you have with picture - it is picture that is important. Thus, if you have a picture of what you do not want, you are still having a tendency to fill your consciousness with that picture, and therefore, to create that.

WHEN – “MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS” – DOESN’T WORK!

WHEN – “MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS” – DOESN’T WORK!   Category: Life: Relationships. Keywords: Relationship advice, personal values, behavioural model, character types, coaching. Summary: If there is one thing for certain in life, there will always be people we meet who repulse us. Why? Because they are not our attracting character type! Words: 1,180.   I’m sure we could all agree that metaphor Men are form Mars and Women are from Venus is a great model for helping with relationship communication. After all it has out sold almost every relationship communication type book ever written.   But what happens if this black and white, she says he says type of communication doesn’t work for your relationships? After all in today’s climate this way of thinking offers a limited view when in comes to communicating in relationships.   Communication in our modern world.   The way we communicate today is becoming more and more complex, we are a far cry from our parents and grand parents situation where father figure earned daily bread and mother figure stayed at home preparing meals, doing cleaning and looking after children.   Adding to this complex way of relating are following: A rising number of women in work force who are career orientated (A Mars type quality). An increase in couples who are getting married later in life. (A rise in mature aged singles) More gay relationships developing with-in community. (Mars with Mars - Venusians with Venusians)   A new perspective.   Vampires, Victims and Sex maniacs is an exciting new universal model that differentiates character types but does not differentiate gender. You have character types that attract and character types that repel. There are three main character types and they are Sex maniacs, Victims and Vampires.   Sex maniacs are very reactive people. Their main focus is survival. If they feel threatened they will become very aggressive and do whatever it takes to survive. A sex maniac in a relationship will feel no guilt about having sex with other partners. A couple who engage in a swinger's relationship is a good example of sex maniacs. This is because sex maniacs do not feel jealousy or possessiveness. They live in present. As long as their needs are met they feel no need to control others.   Victims see life as a place where people are controlling, aggressive and out to get them. Life seems unfair and, at times, hopeless. They are often sick or in pain, have a lot of health issues and allergies and, in extreme cases, life threatening diseases. Victims will look to others for direction because they always need someone to blame if life turns bad. They constantly attract into their lives circumstances, people and events that victimise them and confirm their insecurities. In relationships victims are often ones who pick partners that cheat.   Vampires are controlling, manipulative and domineering. Vampires believe unconsciously or consciously that others need to be controlled. This need to control drives them to manipulate others for purpose of gaining power. In relationships vampires are leaders, decision makers. Vampires are usually very good at covering their tracks. That is, they justify their manipulative ways with quick-thinking jargon, leaving you tongue-tied and confused or frustrated. Although their justifications may make no real sense, you find yourself doing something you didn't really want to do, you are intimidated and you do it to keep peace.   Forces beyond love.   You could say this attraction and repulsion works like metal being attracted to a magnet or two magnets repelling each other. For example if you were a big magnet (vampire) walking around in domain of life, you would attract into your domain all metal (victims and sex maniacs) floating around you. Alternatively, if you were a big piece of solid metal (victim or sex maniac) living life in your own way, you would find yourself being catalyst of a magnetic (vampire) attracting force. If an individual is expressing as a vampire (power) and controlling others then you could say they are a living magnet. The least resistant response of an individual engaged in this interaction is to respond as either a victim or a sex maniac, thus giving up their energy and, in a sense, becoming metal.