Accepting New IdeasWritten by Tony McGlinn
Much of time when a new idea comes to us, we handle that idea and move on, without ever becoming consciously aware of process. During times when we are consciously aware of process of handling a new idea, we often reject that idea without understanding why we rejected it, or sometimes without even understanding that we did reject it.How can this be? To understand this, let's briefly review a few of mechanics of how our minds work. When a new idea comes to us, it comes into our conscious mind. It can be as a result of our own thinking, or it can be from an outside source. Immediately, and sometimes before new idea is even properly formed, our subconscious mind starts to evaluate that idea. Now this evaluation is happening in our subconscious mind. That means that we are not consciously aware of it, but it is happening anyway. So how does our subconscious mind evaluate an idea, sometimes before idea is complete, and without us being aware that this is going on. To understand this we need to understand a characteristics of our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind has no ability to reason. If that is so, how can it evaluate a new idea. Well one way is to ask itself, does this new idea fit with what I already "know". If it does, then new idea will not be immediately rejected. If it doesn't then subconscious mind will send a message to conscious mind to say that this new idea doesn't fit. Usually at this point, conscious mind will believe what subconscious mind is saying to it, and reject idea. There are a number of problems with this. What if information that subconscious mind is evaluating new idea against, is wrong? A common example of this is when a new idea comes into our conscious mind, and our subconscious mind starts to evaluate it. The subconscious mind says, "I already know that". Now that "I know that" message is sent to conscious mind, and what happens then?
| | Can You Become A Better Friend After Taking A Friendship Quiz?Written by Brian Fong
Q. Does a friendship quiz really work?A. That depends upon what results you are seeking from a friendship quiz. If you are seeking to learn how to become a better friend, then real results are found more in understanding lessons that are hidden in question rather than trying to pick right answer. In fact, if friendship quiz is well designed, answer to each question will be very apparent without even having to guess. There are certain well-defined traits that make a person a good friend, and there are other "variable" issues that get thrown into mix. Some of well-defined traits include loyalty, honesty, ability to listen, and ability to understand your friend's feelings. A friendship quiz should give you a way to measure whether or not you have those traits. These kinds of well-defined traits are easy to work into a friendship quiz. What's not so easy are "variable" traits that I mentioned. For example, knowing when to "butt out" of your friend's business is a trait that no friendship quiz can measure. Likewise, knowing when to say "No" to a friend's request is another vague concept that no friendship quiz is likely to be able to quantify.
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