A guide for being single in Mimasaka, Okayama Prefecture

Written by Kinue Saito-Thompson

“A Tsuyama singles scene?” scoffs single Mimasaka resident Hiroyiki Matsuda. “There isn’t one. If you want that, you go to Okayama City.”

Farmer Toru Mizushima, 55, echoesrepparttar statement.

“I don’t even go there as far as Mimasaka’s concerned,” he says. “I’ve lived in Mimasaka for 18 years, raised a family, and can tell you there just isn’t a singles scene — it’s a family-oriented town. That’s why we moved here inrepparttar 150365 first place.”

It is, unfortunately, a common sentiment — in a community built primarily around families, finding ways forrepparttar 150366 underrepresented single adults to mix and mingle can be a daunting task. When questioned about such opportunities, Yoshimi Tabata ofrepparttar 150367 Mimasaka Community Center just laughs.

“We have open-gym basketball and volleyball, both of which are cheap, co-ed and attract a younger crowd,” she notes. “But other than that….”

Yet while trendy bars, dance clubs and hip hangouts may still berepparttar 150368 exclusive domain ofrepparttar 150369 big city, Mimasaka residents shouldn’t lose heart — even out here, there remain a few local youths whererepparttar 150370 age-old hunt for love continues.

Forrepparttar 150371 religiously inclined, a local temple can be a powerful tool for both meeting other singles and getting overrepparttar 150372 shock of being single again due to death or now rising divorce. Endaiji Temple is currently inrepparttar 150373 process of putting together a singles group, andrepparttar 150374 Endaiji Taiko group, while not host to a group of its own, refers interested lay believers to Endaiji for Re-Singled and Singles in Aso.

At Endaiji, single Buddhist band together for a veritable treasure trove of networking opportunities. In addition to its “Bereavement” and “Divorce and Beyond” support groups,repparttar 150375 temple helps organize everything from singles dances to hikes, ikebana, tea ceremony, yakisoba socials to house-building trips forrepparttar 150376 less fortunate in Vietnam.

With close to 20 events per month, not countingrepparttar 150377 regular support-group meetings, singles clued in torepparttar 150378 goings-on at Endaiji can quickly find themselves with more fun, upbeat social opportunities than they know what to do with.

Forrepparttar 150379 nonreligious, things get a bit harder. While it’s always possible to take your chances withrepparttar 150380 karaoke bar scene — Jet 5554 andrepparttar 150381 Sukesan Izakaya appear to be generatingrepparttar 150382 most buzz — many singles prefer to take a more direct approach. That’s where Junichiro Komatsu and Pink Tomato Dating Service step in.

Pink Tomato Dating Service specializes in an activity more widely known as “speed dating,” is a simple concept. Working with between 15 and 30 adults matching a target age range and set of interests, events coordinators like Komatsu set up a series of up to a dozen six-minute-long “speed dates” at a local bar, café or restaurant.

Afterward, participants make note of any other individuals that interested them, with mutual interest resulting in both parties’ receivingrepparttar 150383 others’ contact information, allowing them to set up their first “real” date. Of those who participate, over two-thirds receive at least one match.

“I’ve been doing this for over three years now, and I just love it,” says Komatsu, who ranrepparttar 150384 first Mimasaka event in quite a while atrepparttar 150385 now defunct Mimasaka cannery on June 7. Ultimately, Komatsu hopes to makerepparttar 150386 Mimasaka sessions a monthly affair.

For more customized dating help, singles like local computer analyst Yuji Shiraishi look to actress-turned-matchmaker Reiko Ando. Her new company, The Fantasy Cupid Dater, is a Mimasaka-based organization embodying old-time matchmaker values and offering everything from speed dating and date coaching to “wingman/wingwoman” services, in which a client hires an outgoing “friend” byrepparttar 150387 hour to help introduce him or her to people and make him or her look good.

The Attack On The Mail Order Brides Industry (Part Three)

Written by Jamie Morrow

I feel like you are catering to a clientele who are only capable of having shallow relationships.

I cater to all men you just happen to think men are shallow for being men And if that's how you want to make a buck, I guess that's good for you. But allrepparttar cynicism you are pandering to is just causing more cynicism to grow.

The cynicism is in your head. Cynicism is not derived from bringing a couple into happiness. There is also evidence of unfair bias against Colombian men mentioned in your website or your last correspondence, I can't remember where. But it says that these men are not desired by Colombian women because they drink and/or are unfaithful. I get that this is your angle; I mean you've got to put down American women and Colombian men to justifyrepparttar 150321 need for your business.

I do not put down Colombian men any differently than a football player saying to another football player from another team that we are going to win because we believe we arerepparttar 150322 better football team. The quote you are referring to is from a Colombian woman. This is what many Colombian women think of Colombian men. I do not to create an "angle" whenrepparttar 150323 reality is ample promotion forrepparttar 150324 business. The "need" is natural I can not create a need. You just do not likerepparttar 150325 fact of American men seeking beautiful foreign women who are eager to meet quality American men But I believe that people are people, no matter where they come from or what they look like or how much money they have.

"People are people" only inrepparttar 150326 broadest since. People are different and different places have different types of people andrepparttar 150327 difference that American men have are desired by many foreign women. Stereotyping people based on sex or appearance or culture is hurtful and destructive.

I apply generalization where fitting. But there is no content to your charges of "stereotyping", "pandering", "put down" "cynicism", "shallow" these are just strong words in an empty shell. I probably won't be surprised if you comb over my letter thoroughly and get out your hair splitting devices and over-analyze every last semantic or grammatical nuance of my e-mail. I am not gifted atrepparttar 150328 art of argument or even communication for that matter.

This is just an excuse for hiding behind sloppy reasoning and unsubstantiated concerns. You presented a case that was filled with falsehoods and you expect this to go unchallenged. I agree you have difficulty inrepparttar 150329 art of debate and communications. However, this is due to your faulty thinking; it would be impossible for anyone to logically defend your position regardless of how well they communicated. Instead you attack and avoid any questioning that would distinctly define your position and likely contradictions. I asked you 20 questions and you failed to answer one single question. Yes, why answer any question that would make you look foolish for your beliefs. Doesn't matter that I answered every one of your questions to dorepparttar 150330 same in return just doesn't come to mind even though I specifically requested that you do so so we could fully understand your position. I address onlyrepparttar 150331 overall impression I gleaned from your website - that I find it derogatory - andrepparttar 150332 documented abuses and anecdotal evidence thatrepparttar 150333 mail order bride industry is a sketchy one.

Your "impression" was void of facts. Whether or not you agree with anything I have written, you must admit that one unkind turn deserves another. That's only fair right?

Yes. You describe American women in unkind terms, even saying that we all think we'rerepparttar 150334 best or something like that.

I specifically said, "To attractrepparttar 150335 premium American woman (and they all think their premium) requires you to be atrepparttar 150336 top of your game." I would hardly call this as unkind this andrepparttar 150337 three other sentences directly or indirectly referencing American women onrepparttar 150338 website if anything is a praising. I find a strong self esteem, discriminating taste and complicated traits as positive features. I have made it very clear I do not care or need to insult American women to highlight other avenues for American men that may be to their liking. Why you object to men having this avenue is still unexplained. Then you show a picture of a table of young Colombian women "vying" for a customer's attention. And this is not degrading torepparttar 150339 Colombian women?

I did not think it was degrading for me to be vying for my wife's attention and allrepparttar 150340 other women I pursued inrepparttar 150341 past. So why should it be any different for women to dorepparttar 150342 same. If anything it puts them in control of who they choose to seek. When I was in my 20's I had women pursuing me and I never thought less of them for this. In fact I foundrepparttar 150343 brightest and more accomplished women generally did this. The Colombian women that have participated in these social gathering have foundrepparttar 150344 experience to be fun, interesting and safe. Many of these women have never met an American man so what's wrong with them sharing a conversation with other women to see if there is a mutual interest in a man they agree to meet based on seeing his photo and profile? Having to vie for a male's attention?

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