A Simple Thank YouWritten by Birmingham UK Com
A Simple Thank YouA taxi driver from Focsani in Romania found £2,500 and some passports in back of his cab after taking two businessmen to a meeting. In Romania this is equivalent of two and a half year’s wages for an average cabbie.The honest cab driver guarded money and took precious time out when he should have been out looking for customers and earning a living. The driver sat and guarded money and belongings until owners were able to come and collect it.Finally two businessmen arrived to get their money and passports. Their obvious relief and happiness in getting their money and passports back was countered with a heartless and incredible reward for cab driver – they just took money and walked away without so much as a thank you.Incredible though it may seem they neither took trouble to thank driver or offer any kind of reward as encouragement. Just what will happen next time some hapless foreign visitor leaves their belongings in back of this drivers taxi? All too often these days acts of kindness or effort on part of many individuals is rewarded by stony silence or indifference. What would you have done? Has life’s experience taught you that honesty is not best policy? This common courtesy extends to simple day to day things. You fire off requests for information by email or you take up someone’s valuable time and resources. They reply with what you want – do you thank them? This is most common criticism of email related enquiries and reason why your requests are often ignored. People can no longer be bothered to respond.
| | Why Do People Lie? Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as author resource box at end is included, with hyperlinks. Notification of publication would be appreciated.For other articles which you are free to use, see http://www.innerbonding.com Title: Why Do People Lie? Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2005 by Margaret Paul URL: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 728 Category: Relationships Why Do People lie? Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Amanda and Ron had been married for six years and had two small children. I had counseled them during some difficult times in their marriage, but had not heard from them for a while. Then Amanda scheduled an emergency phone session with me. She was very upset. “I just found out that Ron’s been watching porno on Internet and lying to me about it. I had thought this was going on a couple of weeks ago because of a site I found on computer, but when I asked him about it, he denied it and explained it away. He is not too computer savvy – he doesn’t know how to delete sites - and today I found a number of sites he has visited. I can’t believe this! I’m very upset about porno, but I’m devastated that he lied to me! I feel like trust has gone out of our marriage, and without trust, what do we have? Why did he lie to me?” “Amanda, how would you have responded if he had told you truth?” “I would have been really upset and disappointed in him. I probably would have gotten angry. We have a good sex life, so why is he using porno?” “Well, he lied to you because he knew that this is way you would have reacted. His lying is his way of controlling your reactions, and your anger is your way of controlling his behavior. As long as you get angry when you hear truth, chances are he will lie to you. As your children get older, they, too, will lie to you to avoid your anger and judgment. It takes a very strong person to tell truth and deal with another’s anger and judgment, and Ron is not that strong. He is very afraid of your anger and judgment and will do anything to avoid it, including lying.”
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