Psychology: A Simple Thank You

A Simple Thank You

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A Simple Thank YouA taxi driver from Focsani in Romania found £2,500 and some passports in repparttar

back of his cab after taking two businessmen to a meeting. In Romania this is repparttar 126086

equivalent of two and a half year’s wages for an average cabbie.The honest cab driver guarded repparttar 126087

money and took precious time out when he should have been out looking for customers and earning a living. The driver sat and guarded repparttar 126088

money and belongings until repparttar 126089

owners were able to come and collect it.Finally repparttar 126090

two businessmen arrived to get their money and passports. Their obvious relief and happiness in getting their money and passports back was countered with a heartless and incredible reward for repparttar 126091

cab driver – they just took repparttar 126092

money and walked away without so much as a thank you.

Incredible though it may seem they neither took repparttar 126093 trouble to thank repparttar 126094 driver or offer any kind of reward as encouragement. Just what will happen repparttar 126095 next time some hapless foreign visitor leaves their belongings in repparttar 126096 back of this drivers taxi? All too often these days acts of kindness or effort on repparttar 126097 part of many individuals is rewarded by stony silence or indifference. What would you have done? Has life’s experience taught you that honesty is not repparttar 126098 best policy?

This common courtesy extends to simple day to day things. You fire off requests for information by email or you take up someone’s valuable time and resources. They reply with what you want – do you thank them? This is repparttar 126099 most common criticism of email related enquiries and repparttar 126100 reason why your requests are often ignored. People can no longer be bothered to respond.

Why Do People Lie?

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

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Title: Why Do People Lie? Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2005 by Margaret Paul URL: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 728 Category: Relationships

Why Do People lie? Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Amanda and Ron had been married for six years and had two small children. I had counseled them during some difficult times in their marriage, but had not heard from them for a while. Then Amanda scheduled an emergency phone session with me. She was very upset.

“I just found out that Ron’s been watching porno on repparttar 126086 Internet and lying to me about it. I had thought this was going on a couple of weeks ago because of a site I found on repparttar 126087 computer, but when I asked him about it, he denied it and explained it away. He is not too computer savvy – he doesn’t know how to delete repparttar 126088 sites - and today I found a number of sites he has visited. I can’t believe this! I’m very upset about repparttar 126089 porno, but I’m devastated that he lied to me! I feel like repparttar 126090 trust has gone out of our marriage, and without trust, what do we have? Why did he lie to me?”

“Amanda, how would you have responded if he had told you repparttar 126091 truth?”

“I would have been really upset and disappointed in him. I probably would have gotten angry. We have a good sex life, so why is he using porno?”

“Well, he lied to you because he knew that this is repparttar 126092 way you would have reacted. His lying is his way of controlling your reactions, and your anger is your way of controlling his behavior. As long as you get angry when you hear repparttar 126093 truth, repparttar 126094 chances are he will lie to you. As your children get older, they, too, will lie to you to avoid your anger and judgment. It takes a very strong person to tell repparttar 126095 truth and deal with another’s anger and judgment, and Ron is not that strong. He is very afraid of your anger and judgment and will do anything to avoid it, including lying.”

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