I am not a therapist. I do not do therapy. I am a "Performance Consultant". I teach people how to produce results they want in their lives using most effective methods. Change will be fast, fun, easy and lots more fun! You like fun, right?
I'm not much interested in talking about or analyzing your past. I want to know what you want for now and for future. I can show you how to neutralize bad feelings from past rapidly and easily.
What do you want? You say you are overweight. Well, that is simply a result that you are producing. Change what you think about re: food, exercise, life, relationships, possibilities, etc and you will produce a different result. What do you want? Fit? Buff? Feminine? Sexy? Powerful? Confident? Excited? Focused?
Notice that all stuff therapy types talk about is what you DON"T want! That's wrong pile! When you look at how fat, discouraged, depressed, unhappy, etc you are that's stuff that makes you feel crappy.
You need to look in other direction. Just imagine how great you'll feel as you begin to take control of your life by changing way you feel. What do you want? Vibrant Health? Explosive energy? Deep personal satisfaction? Stop right now and notice how much better you feel looking in this direction.
There is nothing wrong with any of you. You are not broken or damaged or need fixing.
You are simply running brain programs that produce bad feelings. Your past is NOT what causes your feelings. Your feelings are produced with a see + hear = feelings formula. What you see/hear produces your feelings. If you think about your past hooey and see/hear that stuff then you feel bad just like always. That's what depression is....thinking about how bad past was and how awful we feel and how future sucks.
Notice this is orientation that depressed people take. Wrong pile. Joy, satisfaction, fulfillment and peace of mind are not produced that way.
Your first step is to decide what you want in every area of your life. I'll show you how to produce whatever you want at every step of way.
Yes, there are things you can be doing. For starters, start thinking more and more about what you want in every setting through out day. For example, how do you want to feel walking to bathroom? If you were already NEW YOU how would you feel? Create that now...there is no benefit in waiting. How would you walk from your house to your car if you were fully confident and happy? Start walking that way now.