Do you have a goal? A focus in life? Have you invested a great deal of time, effort, money to achieve and yet feel you haven’t made it yet? For all your effort do you still feel that there is something missing in your life? It is obviously very important to set goals in your life. It gives you a focus a way forward a mechanism for making decisions when faced with a number of options. However, it can also be a prison cell.How can making goals and having a focus be a prison cell we hear you ask. It becomes a prison cell when you create goals based on your past experiences. You look back at your skills and capabilities and then decide what you ought to focus on. In other words you set
future on past. It creates illusion that you are going forward when all time you are stuck within boundary of your past capabilities. It’s like driving your car by looking in rear view mirror all time. You have a great vision of what happened in past but haven’t a clue about what is coming in front of you. The point is: whatever happened in past is not a true indication of your potential.
As Alan Cohen stated: "To grow, you must be willing to let your present and future be totally unlike your past. Your history is not your destiny."
In other words if you continue to do what you have always done then you can only expect to get what you’ve always got. If you constantly focus on past, negative or on what is missing in your life you have no alternative but to create limited goals and focus. You are back in that prison cell again.
You need to break cycle. How do you do it? You change your thinking. To give yourself chance of changing your thinking. A chance to create life you want. A chance to create a focus and goals that you want to achieve. Start by answering following questions. They are not easy, but they will enable you, in time, to become very focussed.
Where are you now? Where are you in life? Describe your current situation.
What are your priorities in life?
How important are your close friends and relations to you?
What influence do you have on your partner’s life? How do they influence you? Do you like this?
Do you like where your life is going?
Where do you want to go?
What is success to you? When you are on your death bed looking back at your life what would you like to think your life was about?
Visit questions often until you feel you really understand where you are now and where you want to go. How you get there will become obvious as you progress. Don’t rush, you have plenty of time. Keep focussed inside, on yourself. Think of yourself as opening a bank account of self. The more time you put in, more credit appears on bank account and therefore in time more is available for withdrawal. Now crucial question:
