Sometimes life experiences can be like a lemon-flavored Tootsie Roll Pop. Hard and sour on
outside. Soft and sweet on inside. Take getting dumped in a relationship for instance. Facing life alone can be tough for many people. Yet, there are behind-the-scenes benefits to every predicament! There's even a sweet treat hidden within experience of losing a lover. You can find "pop"—the sweetness—inside your tart tootsie roll by looking behind surface appearance of your situation. Ask yourself some probing questions: "What's been beneficial effect of my predicament?" "What did I learn that helped me become a better person?" and "What good eventually came out of situation?"
By focusing on how experience served you, you can discover how loss of a relationship can restore your trust in life. Or how losing your job or health can propel you closer to your dreams!
Let's check out some real-life lemons. Here are some examples of unseen rewards of losing your relationship, job and health. And how sour aftertaste can become sweet!
Benefits of Being Dumped
I was secure in my second marriage. Then, after 15 years, my husband suddenly abandoned me to marry an older woman. You heard right—an older woman! Go figure!
For years following divorce, my feelings of hurt and anger were compounded by a sense of failure and humiliation. A decade later, I still feel sting of betrayal. But now I'm armed with outlook that every experience serves me. "So," I ponder, "what could possibly be hidden value of getting dumped?"
While searching for benefits, I unearth my involvement in betrayal. The more honest I am, more I uncover truth: I'm cause of my husband leaving me!
I Knew at Altar!
I realize now that betrayal began at church altar. As my fiancée slipped ring on my finger, I knew that we weren't meant to be married to each other. I betrayed my own intuition by agreeing to be his wife. The undeniable fact is that I'm one who abandoned me, not my spouse.
Why didn't I listen to my inner knowing? I realize now that I was afraid to be alone. To avoid loneliness, I jumped into matrimony.
These startling realizations release emotions that have haunted me for years. As more liberating insights pour in, sour feelings begin to lift. I actually start to appreciate my ex-husband! He had courage to tell himself and me straight dope—that our relationship was dead.
Long-term Rewards
Having these fresh insights gives me renewed strength and curiosity to keep asking questions. What could possibly be long-term benefits of being forced to live on my own? How has it served me to have to take care of myself? What good has come from this experience?
Slowly I begin to spot my good fortune of being left in lurch:
I've learned to trust my intuition—and life itself—again I've faced my fear of being alone and find that I enjoy being with myself I've learned how to make my own way in world My focus has shifted from material to spiritual pursuits
