Self Help: A Forty-Five-Second Meditation

A Forty-Five-Second Meditation

Written by Steve Gillman

Is Meditating Too Much Time And Trouble?

If you haven't meditated before, you might think it's too much trouble to learn. If you do meditate, you know it can be difficult to find repparttar time to do it consistently. So is there really a meditation you can learn right now that can be done in 45 seconds? There is.

Three Deep Breaths

Try this: breath through your mouth, and notice how your chest expands; then breath through your nose and you'll notice how your abdomen goes out more. You see, breathing through repparttar 128467 nose causes repparttar 128468 diaphram to pull repparttar 128469 air to repparttar 128470 bottom of your lungs. This delivers a good dose of oxygen into your bloodstream, and into your brain. It also tends to relax you.

This is why meditators breath through their noses. It's healthier, and it is repparttar 128471 basis of this forty-five-second meditation. You simply close your eyes, let go of your thoughts (to repparttar 128472 extent possible), and take three slow, deep breaths through your nose, paying attention to your breathing.

The Rest Of The Story

Now, this won't get you into a deep meditative state, especially if you've never meditated before. Is this a reason not to do it? Not at all. You'll get what you get out of it, and that almost certainly includes a clearer mind and a reduction in stress.

Date Lying

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

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Date Lying By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

A reader of my articles wrote to me about repparttar 128467 article I wrote entitled, “Why do People Lie?” He said that he would be “very interested in a similar article with examples about all repparttar 128468 lying that women do….At least in repparttar 128469 initial stages of dating, women lie sooooo much.”

Well, being a woman, I’m not as aware of how much women lie on dates as I am of how much men lie on dates. So I decided to write about date lying in general.

The man who wrote to me was upset about lies such as “I have to go,” or “I’m busy,” or “I’m on another call right now. I’ll call you back.” He states that “I think that much of this is women’s very misguided attempt to ‘spare someone’s feelings.’ Reject them, without actually rejecting them.”

I think this is accurate. Women have been trained to not hurt men’s feelings. They have been taught that if repparttar 128470 truth will hurt, then tell a “white lie.” And, when they do tell repparttar 128471 truth, it is often in a harsh or critical way.

I’ve often counseled women, who don’t want to date a particular man, to say things like, “I don’t feel romantic toward you,” or “There doesn’t seem to be chemistry between us,” or “I’m not feeling a connection with you.” One of my clients told a man who called her for a first date, “Your energy does not feel respectful toward me. I’m not drawn to meet you because of this.” He was open to what she was saying and they ended up having a good conversation. He was appreciative of her truth, and she ended up going out with him.

Since men are usually repparttar 128472 ones doing repparttar 128473 calling, they are not as often put in repparttar 128474 position of say no. My experience is that men often lie too, but in different ways. For example, a client of mine, a psychotherapist, dated a man who told her he was in therapy. She was pleased to hear this, as personal growth was very important to her. She later discovered that he was in therapy because repparttar 128475 court had mandated it due to him having punched his ex-wife in repparttar 128476 stomach while she was pregnant. She found this out through repparttar 128477 ex-wife. His avoidance of repparttar 128478 truth was an attempt to impress her and control how she felt about him.

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