A Forty-Five-Second MeditationWritten by Steve Gillman
Is Meditating Too Much Time And Trouble?If you haven't meditated before, you might think it's too much trouble to learn. If you do meditate, you know it can be difficult to find time to do it consistently. So is there really a meditation you can learn right now that can be done in 45 seconds? There is. Three Deep BreathsTry this: breath through your mouth, and notice how your chest expands; then breath through your nose and you'll notice how your abdomen goes out more. You see, breathing through nose causes diaphram to pull air to bottom of your lungs. This delivers a good dose of oxygen into your bloodstream, and into your brain. It also tends to relax you. This is why meditators breath through their noses. It's healthier, and it is basis of this forty-five-second meditation. You simply close your eyes, let go of your thoughts (to extent possible), and take three slow, deep breaths through your nose, paying attention to your breathing. The Rest Of The StoryNow, this won't get you into a deep meditative state, especially if you've never meditated before. Is this a reason not to do it? Not at all. You'll get what you get out of it, and that almost certainly includes a clearer mind and a reduction in stress.
| | Date LyingWritten by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as author resource box at end is included, with hyperlinks. Notification of publication would be appreciated.Title: Date Lying Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2005 by Margaret Paul URL: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 765 Category: Relationships Date Lying By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. A reader of my articles wrote to me about article I wrote entitled, “Why do People Lie?” He said that he would be “very interested in a similar article with examples about all lying that women do….At least in initial stages of dating, women lie sooooo much.” Well, being a woman, I’m not as aware of how much women lie on dates as I am of how much men lie on dates. So I decided to write about date lying in general. The man who wrote to me was upset about lies such as “I have to go,” or “I’m busy,” or “I’m on another call right now. I’ll call you back.” He states that “I think that much of this is women’s very misguided attempt to ‘spare someone’s feelings.’ Reject them, without actually rejecting them.” I think this is accurate. Women have been trained to not hurt men’s feelings. They have been taught that if truth will hurt, then tell a “white lie.” And, when they do tell truth, it is often in a harsh or critical way. I’ve often counseled women, who don’t want to date a particular man, to say things like, “I don’t feel romantic toward you,” or “There doesn’t seem to be chemistry between us,” or “I’m not feeling a connection with you.” One of my clients told a man who called her for a first date, “Your energy does not feel respectful toward me. I’m not drawn to meet you because of this.” He was open to what she was saying and they ended up having a good conversation. He was appreciative of her truth, and she ended up going out with him. Since men are usually ones doing calling, they are not as often put in position of say no. My experience is that men often lie too, but in different ways. For example, a client of mine, a psychotherapist, dated a man who told her he was in therapy. She was pleased to hear this, as personal growth was very important to her. She later discovered that he was in therapy because court had mandated it due to him having punched his ex-wife in stomach while she was pregnant. She found this out through ex-wife. His avoidance of truth was an attempt to impress her and control how she felt about him.
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