I've worked with someone I know in my community who is looking for her next job.

These are things I have discovered about myself, my values and my own ethics in advising someone in job search.

1. This person has had no job history that has not been menial or beneath her capabilities. She is now close to being 50 years old.

2. I counseled her for three visits as we discussed her past and future. She did not appear to "buy into" advice and information I was providing.

3. She is deeply religious and her decisions are based on being of service to others and to God. 4. She had been sexually abused as a child by a male family member.

5. She is probably going to be laid off from her current job and is negotiating with a new group in town to be a houseparent with two day and night shifts, working with women who have recently been released from incarceration.

Seriously, you can. I am going to show you how you can do this. What you are about to discover is so easy and unique, everyone can do it. Our world would be better off.

If someone told you "You're getting fat", how would you react? If someone told you "You're getting gray," how would you react? Would you be hurt, angry, or make a joke of it?

You have a choice. You choose your behavior and how you react to other people's communications and behavior. It is your decision to use your personality positively or negatively. It is that decision that affects your relationships with everyone in your life. It can make or break your relationships.

We all have same personality traits. We are possessive, critical, impatient, tolerant, generous, selective, moody, skeptical, stubborn, adventurous, plus 58 other traits.

Generosity appears to be a nice trait to have, right? Not when it is used to extreme, then it becomes negative.