One single, "mental move" has
power to create incredible success...There is a single mental move you can make which, in a millisecond, will solve enormous problems for you. It has potential to improve almost any personal or business situation you will ever encounter, and it could literally propel you down path to incredible success. We have a name for this magic mental activity ... it is called DECISION.
Decisions or lack of them are responsible for breaking or making of many a career. Individuals who have become very proficient at making decisions, without being influenced by opinions of others, are same people whose annual incomes fall into six and seven figure category. However, it's not just your income that is affected by decisions; your whole life is dominated by this power. The health of your mind and body, well-being of your family, your social life, type of relationships you develop … all are dependent upon your ability to make sound decisions.
So, how is a person expected to develop this mental ability? Quite simply, as commercial says, "Just do it." Decision making brings order to your mind, and of course, this order is then reflected in your objective world ... your results.
Indecision sets up internal conflicts that can, without warning, escalate into all out mental and emotional wars. Psychiatrists have a name to describe these internal wars - ambivalence. My Oxford Dictionary tells me that ambivalence is co-existence in one person of opposite feelings toward same objective.
You do not require a doctorate degree in psychiatry to understand that you are going to have difficulty in your life by permitting your mind to remain in an ambivalent state for any period of time. The person who does permit it to exist will become very despondent and virtually incapable of any type of productive activity. It is obvious that anyone who finds themselves in such a mental state is not living; at best, they are merely existing. A decision or a series of decisions would change everything.
A very basic law of universe is "create or disintegrate". Indecision causes disintegration. How often have you heard a person say, "I don't know what to do." How often have you heard yourself say, "What should I do?" Think about some of indecisive feelings you and virtually everyone on this planet experience from time to time. Love them; leave them. Quit, stay. Do it, don't do it. Buy it, don't buy it. Tell them, don't tell them.
Everyone, on occasion, has experienced these feelings of ambivalence. If it happens to you frequently, decide right now to stop it. The cause of ambivalence is indecision, but we must keep in mind that truth is not always in appearance of things. Indecision is a cause of ambivalence, however it is a secondary cause, it is not primary cause. I have been studying behavior of people who have become very proficient at making decisions for over a quarter century. They all have one thing in common. They have a very strong self image, a high degree of self-esteem. They may be as different as night is to day in numerous other respects, but they certainly possess confidence. Low self-esteem or a lack of confidence is real culprit here. Decision makers are not afraid of making an error. If and when they make an error in their decision, or fail at something, they have ability to shrug it off. They learn from experience but they will never submit to failure.
There is one cardinal rule with respect to decision making: decide right where you are with whatever you've got. This is precisely why most people never master this important attribute. They permit their resources to dictate if and when a decision will or can be made. When John Kennedy asked Wernher Von Braun what it would take to build a rocket that would carry a man to moon and return him safely to earth, his answer was simple and direct. "The will to do it." President Kennedy never asked if it was possible. He never asked if they could afford it or any one of a thousand other questions, all of which would have ... at that time ... been valid questions.
