Written by Rhoberta Shaler

For most people,repparttar word "discipline" has an immediate negative connotation. It implies something imposed fromrepparttar 101901 outside, doesn't it? It means that someone or something is controlling or demanding, neither of which are particularly appealing. When we do think about self-discipline, it, too, often has a negative spin because it is seen as difficult and contributing to failure. Can you think about it differently?

Self-discipline is nothing more than keeping your commitments to yourself. If you say something is important and significant to you, then take this little test:

Does that something that you SAY is important show up a significant number of times in either your calendar, or your checkbook, or both? If it does not, then, where isrepparttar 101902 demonstration that it is important to you? Do you regularly do what you say has value to you?

I'm sure you understandrepparttar 101903 picture. I believe behavior, not words. How about you?


Written by Rhoberta Shaler

Is your mind your greatest asset? Do you suffer from malpractice ofrepparttar mouth? That isrepparttar 101900 malady that occurs whenrepparttar 101901 mouth enrages beforerepparttar 101902 mind engages! You may work with someone afflicted!

There is no room inrepparttar 101903 workplace for verbal violence. None! It is inappropriate, unacceptable, and, definitely, unprofessional. No allowances for verbal violence should be made for educated and mentally competent adults in positions of authority. NONE!

Folks who yell and curse (and some who add obscenities) are using their words inrepparttar 101904 same way they would use their fists. It is no more sophisticated. It is both a sign of lack of skills and a symptom of unmanaged frustration. They need help--help to express their feelings and their need for control appropriately.

Should providing this help berepparttar 101905 responsibility ofrepparttar 101906 organization? That is an important question. Employees who are doing an excellent job in most areas arerepparttar 101907 consideration, aren't they? They are valuable and they have a 'people skills' gap. The good news is that people skills can be taught. The bad news is that some folks do not want to learn them. So,repparttar 101908 first assessment that must be made isrepparttar 101909 willingness ofrepparttar 101910 employee to examine and improve their skills. No number of training hours can make a person change.

A few years ago, I was delivering a program on managing difficult people successfully. As this is a program I often deliver, some agencies regularly sent folks to it. One woman appeared inrepparttar 101911 course three times in three years. At one break, she complained to me, "I just don't know why they keep sending me on this silly course. I know it by heart. It's a waste of their money." Well, I knew why she was there. She wasrepparttar 101912 'difficult person' and she just would not internalizerepparttar 101913 information being given to her. You know, we may all be someone else's idea of a difficult person at times. This woman wasrepparttar 101914 poster child. She was bright enough. She was able to grasprepparttar 101915 concepts, but, she simply would not apply them to herself. Perhaps, she is still being sent to that same course...and still complaining about it!

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