Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn

One of my children is a daughter adopted 22 years ago from a little known orphanage in Pune, India. She joined our family at six weeks and became a US citizen before she could speak. Her pre-adoption history -- as are so many other adopted children's -- is a maze of facts and fabrications and we will never be able to weave togetherrepparttar complete truth about her origins. Her identity isrepparttar 126328 one formed as she grew up as part of our American family. She walks and talks with an all American athletic flair. In high school, one of her most memorable moments was to crew atrepparttar 126329 challenging Head ofrepparttar 126330 Charles -- a most all American event. Summers, she earned spending money working as a lifeguard, teacher's aide, an administrative assistant and a sales person at a local boutique. We taught herrepparttar 126331 American work ethic that with hard work and perseverance, she had a good chance of achieving her goals. Color was never to be used as an excuse to not do her best.

When I am with her, talking, cooking, arguing, I only see my daughter and I am colorblind. When I look at photographs ofrepparttar 126332 two of us, I am often stunned atrepparttar 126333 stark contrast in our looks. It is only then that I see whatrepparttar 126334 world sees. Her luminescent deep bronze skin, large dark eyes and exquisite long dark hair is sharply contrasted with my own green eyes, short blond hair, and pale white complexion. Sometimes it takes me a moment to recognizerepparttar 126335 two of us and to absorbrepparttar 126336 visual difference we present.

Helping her come to grips with her Indian looks in a Caucasian family has taken awareness on her and our family's part. When she was eight, I took her on a pilgrimage to India. I wanted her to know her heritage and to be proud of it. Young and still unsure of whom she was; she was concerned about how they would know she was American. Without thinking I answered, "Byrepparttar 126337 way you walk." Not totally trusting my response, (which turned out to be true) she insisted on wearing emblematic blue jeansrepparttar 126338 entire time we were there. I worried that those who saw her would think she was not well cared for. I was embarrassed and wanted her to wear a dress. She won, and made sure she flauntedrepparttar 126339 uniform of her adopted country for all to see.

Now in her third year of college, she recently transferred to a university that is far from home, located in a city that is less cosmopolitan and international than her hometown of Washington, DC. It has a smaller international student body than she is used to, and at least in her eyes, more blue eyed females with long straight blond hair than she is accustomed to going to classes with. She has always been aware of being a minority, but before September 11th, she had experienced few ugly incidents related to her country of origin. If anything, she was developing a comfort level as "an attractive rare bird" valued by those of all skin shades.

Who Are You?

Written by Leigh Butler

If someone asks yourepparttar question, "Who are you?" how would you respond? Most people respond by stating their name. For instance, I would respond, "My name is Leigh." But, does my response tell you anything about who I am?

What if I asked you to tell me about yourself? How would you respond? More than likely you would respond by listing your roles and positions followed by your interest.

So, who are you? Do you know? Are you merely a name, or are you much more?

We often fail to realize that our roles and positions help to define who we are. For example, I am a student, daughter, educator, consultant, and guardian.


Roles and positions are interrelated but have different meanings. Roles arerepparttar 126327 different parts we play when we interact with other people. Positions are our locations within a collection of interconnected roles. A role includes repparttar 126328 duties or obligations ofrepparttar 126329 position.

In order to define your roles you must first understand that for every position there is an expectation of what should be repparttar 126330 behavior of a person who holds that position. For example, educators are expected to teach, assist students, grade papers, etc.

Defining your roles and positions help you to better manage them and maximize your role performance.


Every individual learns that certain behaviors are expected of him as an occupant of a particular position. In other words, he learnsrepparttar 126331 role associated withrepparttar 126332 position.

Everyone occupies a number of different positions and therefore has a number of different roles. However, few people learn how to effectively manage them all. Usually ineffective management is due to ambiguous understanding of role expectations and/orrepparttar 126333 burden of managingrepparttar 126334 behaviors associated with multiple roles.

In order to manage your roles and positions in a more efficient and effective manner, list each role and position you hold followed byrepparttar 126335 behaviors that are expected of you as an occupant. Show your list to someone such as your husband, wife, or boss who can tell you if you have accurately captured what is expected of you.

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