Written by Michael Mercer, Ph.D.

Making a fabulous impression on people opens doors for your business, personal, and career endeavors. People like charming people who make them feel comfortable. So, making a fantastic impression helps you get where you want to go.

The basic rule to make a great impression is this: Humans crave to be around people who seem similar to themselves. The key word is seems. Everyone differs from other people in hundreds of ways. However, you get along with people you seem similar to you in interests, feelings, experiences, or goals. You can put these techniques into action to help people feel you seem similar to them and, as a result, make a wonderful impression.

1st Technique: Forgetrepparttar “Golden Rule”

Since people crave to be around people who seem similar to themselves, avoid wasting time onrepparttar 139895 “Golden Rule” fantasy suggesting, “Treat people as you want to be treated.” People do not want to be treatedrepparttar 139896 way you want to be treated!

Instead, treat other peoplerepparttar 139897 way they like being treated. You make a stellar impression by focusing on their likes, not yours.

2nd Technique: Userepparttar 139898 Other Person’s Interpersonal Style

People interact using four interpersonal styles, as follows:

1. Results-Focused: “Quickly tell merepparttar 139899 time, not how to build a clock!!”

2. Detail-Focused: “Slowly tell me how to build a clock, slowly leading up to what time it is.”

3. Friendly-Focused: “First, I’ll tell you about my family and weekend. Then, let’s discuss yours. Then, let’s gossip. Then, let’s discuss work.”

4. Partying-Focused: “Wanna hear another joke? Let’s PARTY!!”

Remember: Humans crave to be around people who seem similar to themselves. So, with a results-focused person, act fast-paced and results-focused. To impress a detail-focused person, tell “how to buildrepparttar 139900 clock,” not what time it is.

3rd Technique: Mirror

Mirroring proves incredibly subtle, powerful, and physical. It helpsrepparttar 139901 person instinctively feel comfortable with you. How? You mirror – make yourself seem similar to –repparttar 139902 person’s 1. Body language 2. Vocal style 3. Attire

To impress someone who sits straight, you sit straight with that person. Ifrepparttar 139903 person speaks slowly, then you do likewise. And dress as formally or informally asrepparttar 139904 person you want to impress. 4th Technique: Listen Attentively

This tale illustratesrepparttar 139905 importance of listening well.

A man decided to divorce his wife. His lawyer asked, “Did you love your wife?” The man replied, “I would have left her, but I was hesitant before.”

Then,repparttar 139906 lawyer asked, “Why do you want to leave her?” The man said, “We have lots of trees around our house, but I rake uprepparttar 139907 leaves myself.”

The lawyer asked, “Is she mean?” The man answered, “ I stopped eating red meat.”Then,repparttar 139908 lawyer inquired, “Does she do housework? Does she take out garbage?” The man responded, “We have a two-car garage.”

The recipe to stop procrastinating

Written by Tom Drakou

Procrastination is a rather serious issue. Various researches shown that, for example, up to 70% of students tend to procrastinate at least occasionally. Another interesting number was brought to attention in a recent research done by Tim Pychyl and Jennifer Lavoie - they discovered that 47% ofrepparttar time spent online onrepparttar 139830 internet amounts to nothing else but work avoidance.

Many people look for an instant cure for everything, but especially when it comes to procrastination, such a cure remains a distant dream. Procrastination can be a really tough nut to crack, asrepparttar 139831 word itself is just a non-descriptive label covering many possible symptoms and causes, often quite unrelated.

In a hope that it will inspire some, I am offering a recipe from my anti-procrastination cuisine:

Recipe by: http://www.procrastinationhelp.com/

Preparation time: 30 minutes

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