6 Reasons Why Setting Goals Doesn't Work

Written by Kathy Gates

You're frustrated. You dutifully follow Goal Setting 101 advice, but it still seems that you lose sight of what you want and how you'll get it. See if any of these common goal setting mistakes - and how to correct them - are behind your frustrations. Makerepparttar adjustment, and try again.

1 Hung-Up-On Goals - It's easy to get plugged into a goal, and even though it's not working, you hang on to it out of sheer habit or willfulness. That sets you up for procrastination and frustration. Put things into a more simplified version by concentrating onrepparttar 101944 big picture -repparttar 101945 direction you want your life to go - instead ofrepparttar 101946 specific way to get there. Mayberepparttar 101947 goal to own a Million Dollar house is about wanting freedom and autonomy. Mayberepparttar 101948 goal to write a NYT bestseller is really about wanting recognition for your talents. Focus onrepparttar 101949 feelings that you are after instead ofrepparttar 101950 one-and- only way to get it.

2. Transparent Goals: If you examine your goals you may find that you have no *plan* associated with your goal. Generallyrepparttar 101951 mistake here is that 'goals' and 'actions' have become confused. Instead, think Goal, Strategy, Action. The Goal isrepparttar 101952 objective, what you want. The Strategy isrepparttar 101953 overall way in which you'll accomplish it. And The Action isrepparttar 101954 specific activity that is required to achieve it (how you'll do it). Example: You might have big picture goal of a healthier lifestyle. The strategy associated with that might be to eat less and exercise more. The ACTIONS might be "don't eat after 6:00 pm", and "walk 30 minutes afterrepparttar 101955 6:00 news every weekday".

3. Contradictory Goals. This is a common mistake in goal setting--two or more goals with opposing results. Marriage counselors see it a lot in people who wantrepparttar 101956 benefits of being married without giving uprepparttar 101957 single lifestyle. Or maybe you have a goal to spend more time with your family, but you have a job you want to do well at that require a lot of face-time. Contradictory goals will frustrate you to no end, because you've given yourself an impossible task. Evaluate your goals in light of their relationship to each other.

4. False Goals: These are goals that involve chasing money, approval of others, etc. If you want to become a doctor just to winrepparttar 101958 approval of your parents, that's a false goal. If you want to be Super Mom just to please your husband, that's a false goal. You may even succeed at getting your degree, or being a Martha Steward wannabe, but you'll never be happy with your decision. It's not YOUR goal. "Shoulds" are usually someone else's idea of a life for you. If you find that you can't accomplish anything on your goal, it may be that it's not an expression ofrepparttar 101959 authentic you. Findrepparttar 101960 courage to tellrepparttar 101961 truth about what you really want in your life.

Journaling Your Way To Happiness

Written by Lisa van den Berg

Oprah has said it and so will I, keeping a daily journal is an excellent way to help yourself to a generous dose of Happiness.

In studies conducted, it has been found that writingrepparttar events ofrepparttar 101943 day in a journal drastically increases your powers of recall and memory. It also helps to ‘unload’ all repparttar 101944 baggage you’ve collected duringrepparttar 101945 day. It helps you to remember allrepparttar 101946 blessings you’ve been sent andrepparttar 101947 new ways you learned to overcome an obstacle. It allows you to see allrepparttar 101948 wonderful things that happened today and reminds you to be grateful.

Congratulate yourself on allrepparttar 101949 good you did,repparttar 101950 lessons you learned and even just getting throughrepparttar 101951 day torepparttar 101952 best of your ability.

Journaling helps you to go back through each event that happened duringrepparttar 101953 day and analyze your reaction to that event. This way you can gain valuable information that slipped past inrepparttar 101954 rush.

You see interactions with others (good and bad) and can learn from them. -Was reacting in that wayrepparttar 101955 best way to handlerepparttar 101956 situation? -If you’d approached him from this angle, would a better result have been achieved for all parties involved?

You reinforce your memory by reviewingrepparttar 101957 day’s happenings. -By going overrepparttar 101958 day’s events your memory is forced to recall details that you would otherwise have forgotten. This re-enforcesrepparttar 101959 path of your memory and you’ll find it easier to recall specific events.

You also seerepparttar 101960 gifts you were given duringrepparttar 101961 day -A smile from a stranger or a compliment fromrepparttar 101962 cute guy inrepparttar 101963 lift. -That taxi pulling up just in time, when you knew you were going to be late

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