5 Things You Shouldn’t Do If He’s Cheating On You

Written by Ruth Houston


This may berepparttar most important article you’ll read about dealing with your husband’s affair. There’s plenty of information available on what to do if your husband is cheating. But very little has been written aboutrepparttar 130870 things you shouldn’t do.

Your husband is cheating. You’re not sure what to do. Before wrestling with that decision, let’s focus first on what you SHOULDN’T do. Most women react blindly when they find out their husbands are having an affair. They let fear, anger, hurt, or a desire for revenge compel them to do things they later regret -- things which make it difficult or impossible to implement any worthwhile infidelity advice they may later receive.

This article will keep you from making a mistake that could sabotagerepparttar 130871 course of action you eventually decide to take. Regardless of whether you decide to leave your husband or stay with him and try to work things out, doingrepparttar 130872 wrong thing atrepparttar 130873 outset can make a bad situation worse. Let’s look at 5 key things you SHOULDN’T do and examinerepparttar 130874 reasons why.

1. Don’t put him out or leave him - yet.

Instead of your first move, putting your husband out or leaving him should be your last resort. You may eventually decide to do this, but for now, it’srepparttar 130875 worst thing you can do. Right now you need to keep a close eye on what’s going on. It’ll be easier to do that ifrepparttar 130876 two of you are still living underrepparttar 130877 same roof. If you put him out or leave, you’ll be hard-pressed to know what he’s doing, short of hiring an investigator. As long as you’re still together, you can keep your finger onrepparttar 130878 pulse of his affair and gather some much-needed facts. There’s a lot you need to know aboutrepparttar 130879 situation before you can make an intelligent decision about what to do. Continue monitoring your husband’s activities, attitude,repparttar 130880 frequency of his contact with his lover and any other details concerning his affair. Write everything down in a journal for future use. Also bear in mind that as long as he’s still there, you have a chance to work things out.

2. Don’t tellrepparttar 130881 whole world about his infidelity.

It’s natural to want to confide in somebody about your husband’s affair, or rally friends and family to your side. But be very cautious about who you tell. The female friend you confide in could turn out to berepparttar 130882 “other woman.” Make sure you’re confiding in someone you know you can trust. Confiding in a male friend about your husband’s affair could complicaterepparttar 130883 situation. There are men out there who take advantage of women when they’re in a vulnerable state. Telling your husband’s friends or family may not producerepparttar 130884 results you want. They might not take you seriously, or they may lie, make excuses for him, take his side, or warn him to cover his tracks. Confiding in your own family and friends can eventually come back to haunt you. Elephants aren’trepparttar 130885 only ones who never forget. Some people have a tendency to remember unpleasant events long after they’ve been resolved. If you and your husband decide to reconcile, they could make things difficult by harboring anger and hostility toward him for what he did to you. Or they may show resentment toward you for taking him back. Exercise caution in who you tell about your husband’s affair.

3. Don’t ignore his affair or pretend it’s not happening.

Going into denial will only make matters worse. As traumatic as it is to find out that your husband has been cheating, you need to facerepparttar 130886 reality ofrepparttar 130887 situation. Ignoring his infidelity gives himrepparttar 130888 go-ahead to continue his affair. Pretending it’s not happening will make him think he’s getting away with his cheating, or give himrepparttar 130889 impression that he has your silent approval. At some point you should inform your husband that you know about his affair and make it clear that you want it to stop. The sooner you confront him about his cheating,repparttar 130890 better. The longer you wait to bring it up and express your disapproval,repparttar 130891 more attached he will become torepparttar 130892 other woman. Andrepparttar 130893 harder it will be to get your marriage back on track. Remember too, that affairs thrive in secrecy. Sometimes, just telling your husband you know about it, will be enough to put a stop to his affair.

sex of the baby

Written by dr anil maheshwari


Divine doctor.

Just wanted to share this short article with you. Kindly go thru' it very carefully and let me know your views.

dr anil maheshwari.

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Myth: Sex ofrepparttar baby is chosen byrepparttar 130868 male.

Reality: Sex ofrepparttar 130869 baby is chosen byrepparttar 130870 female.

Discussion: For centuries beforerepparttar 130871 advent of modern medical science, it was believed thatrepparttar 130872 woman was responsible forrepparttar 130873 birth of a male or a female child and thatrepparttar 130874 male had no say in choosingrepparttar 130875 sex ofrepparttar 130876 unborn baby. Even today in many indian villages and other rural areas aroundrepparttar 130877 world(where ignorance of medical knowledge still prevails)--it isrepparttar 130878 woman who is still incriminated and blamed for repeatedly giving birth to a female child. But now withrepparttar 130879 discovery ofrepparttar 130880 x-chromosomes sperms and y-chromosomes sperms inrepparttar 130881 semen,repparttar 130882 medical scientists proclaimed that it isrepparttar 130883 male who is responsible for choosing or selectingrepparttar 130884 sex ofrepparttar 130885 baby. Butrepparttar 130886 medical scientists have overlooked one very important factor : namelyrepparttar 130887 patho-physiological conditions, status(ofrepparttar 130888 sperms andrepparttar 130889 ovum) and other unseen factors leading to chemotaxis(attraction ofrepparttar 130890 sperms towardsrepparttar 130891 ovum)---which finally leads to conception and eventually decidesrepparttar 130892 sex ofrepparttar 130893 baby.

Now let us examinerepparttar 130894 patho-physiology andrepparttar 130895 ionic status ofrepparttar 130896 'x' and 'y' sperms, andrepparttar 130897 variable charge ofrepparttar 130898 ovum which ultimately decides which sperm (x or y) will fertilizerepparttar 130899 ovum.

By prior knowledge we now know that sperms containingrepparttar 130900 X chromosome are negatively charged while sperms containingrepparttar 130901 Y chromosome are positively charged. This fact was observed whenrepparttar 130902 sperms were separated by electrophoresis. Numerous studies have revealed that when a weak electrical current was passed through a solution containing spermatozoa, those withrepparttar 130903 X chromosome were attracted byrepparttar 130904 anode (+) and those withrepparttar 130905 Y chromosome byrepparttar 130906 cathode (-). Some scientists have also identifiedrepparttar 130907 appearance of a brief luminous ring atrepparttar 130908 moment of contact between spermatozoon and ovule. This phenomenon has since been measured and is proof of an electrical involvement in fertilisation. Alsorepparttar 130909 charge onrepparttar 130910 ovum membrane was not fixed but alternated from positive to neutral and to a negative charge in a cycle. This was calledrepparttar 130911 polarity cycle ofrepparttar 130912 ovum membrane. This polarity was found to be predictable but totally separate fromrepparttar 130913 menstrual cycle. The polarity cycle, which is unknown to most of us, was there in addition torepparttar 130914 ovulation/menstrual cycle.

The argument behind this finding is that gender(sex) ofrepparttar 130915 baby is influenced by what scientists call "ionic factors" which generaterepparttar 130916 charge onrepparttar 130917 ovum membrane and onrepparttar 130918 sperms.

First let us view this in a different way---According torepparttar 130919 Laws of nature----whatever is happening atrepparttar 130920 microscopic level is reflected inrepparttar 130921 happenings atrepparttar 130922 macroscopic level ---or ---in other words whatever happens atrepparttar 130923 physical (gross) level is a reflection of what happens atrepparttar 130924 subtle(cellular) level. So we now come torepparttar 130925 most important aspect of man-woman relationship ie. marriage (selection ofrepparttar 130926 partner for mating).

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