Your husband is cheating. You’re not sure what to do. Before wrestling with that decision, let’s focus first on what you SHOULDN’T do. Most women react blindly when they find out their husbands are having an affair. They let fear, anger, hurt, or a desire for revenge compel them to do things they later regret -- things which make it difficult or impossible to implement any worthwhile infidelity advice they may later receive.

This article will keep you from making a mistake that could sabotage course of action you eventually decide to take. Regardless of whether you decide to leave your husband or stay with him and try to work things out, doing wrong thing at outset can make a bad situation worse. Let’s look at 5 key things you SHOULDN’T do and examine reasons why.

1. Don’t put him out or leave him - yet.

Instead of your first move, putting your husband out or leaving him should be your last resort. You may eventually decide to do this, but for now, it’s worst thing you can do. Right now you need to keep a close eye on what’s going on. It’ll be easier to do that if two of you are still living under same roof. If you put him out or leave, you’ll be hard-pressed to know what he’s doing, short of hiring an investigator. As long as you’re still together, you can keep your finger on pulse of his affair and gather some much-needed facts. There’s a lot you need to know about situation before you can make an intelligent decision about what to do. Continue monitoring your husband’s activities, attitude, frequency of his contact with his lover and any other details concerning his affair. Write everything down in a journal for future use. Also bear in mind that as long as he’s still there, you have a chance to work things out.

2. Don’t tell whole world about his infidelity.

It’s natural to want to confide in somebody about your husband’s affair, or rally friends and family to your side. But be very cautious about who you tell. The female friend you confide in could turn out to be “other woman.” Make sure you’re confiding in someone you know you can trust. Confiding in a male friend about your husband’s affair could complicate situation. There are men out there who take advantage of women when they’re in a vulnerable state. Telling your husband’s friends or family may not produce results you want. They might not take you seriously, or they may lie, make excuses for him, take his side, or warn him to cover his tracks. Confiding in your own family and friends can eventually come back to haunt you. Elephants aren’t only ones who never forget. Some people have a tendency to remember unpleasant events long after they’ve been resolved. If you and your husband decide to reconcile, they could make things difficult by harboring anger and hostility toward him for what he did to you. Or they may show resentment toward you for taking him back. Exercise caution in who you tell about your husband’s affair.

3. Don’t ignore his affair or pretend it’s not happening.

Just wanted to share this short article with you. Kindly go thru' it very carefully and let me know your views.

dr anil maheshwari.

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Myth: Sex of baby is chosen by male.

Reality: Sex of baby is chosen by female.

Discussion: For centuries before advent of modern medical science, it was believed that woman was responsible for birth of a male or a female child and that male had no say in choosing sex of unborn baby. Even today in many indian villages and other rural areas around world(where ignorance of medical knowledge still prevails)--it is woman who is still incriminated and blamed for repeatedly giving birth to a female child. But now with discovery of x-chromosomes sperms and y-chromosomes sperms in semen, medical scientists proclaimed that it is male who is responsible for choosing or selecting sex of baby. But medical scientists have overlooked one very important factor : namely patho-physiological conditions, status(of sperms and ovum) and other unseen factors leading to chemotaxis(attraction of sperms towards ovum)---which finally leads to conception and eventually decides sex of baby.

Now let us examine patho-physiology and ionic status of 'x' and 'y' sperms, and variable charge of ovum which ultimately decides which sperm (x or y) will fertilize ovum.

By prior knowledge we now know that sperms containing X chromosome are negatively charged while sperms containing Y chromosome are positively charged. This fact was observed when sperms were separated by electrophoresis. Numerous studies have revealed that when a weak electrical current was passed through a solution containing spermatozoa, those with X chromosome were attracted by anode (+) and those with Y chromosome by cathode (-). Some scientists have also identified appearance of a brief luminous ring at moment of contact between spermatozoon and ovule. This phenomenon has since been measured and is proof of an electrical involvement in fertilisation. Also charge on ovum membrane was not fixed but alternated from positive to neutral and to a negative charge in a cycle. This was called polarity cycle of ovum membrane. This polarity was found to be predictable but totally separate from menstrual cycle. The polarity cycle, which is unknown to most of us, was there in addition to ovulation/menstrual cycle.

The argument behind this finding is that gender(sex) of baby is influenced by what scientists call "ionic factors" which generate charge on ovum membrane and on sperms.