46 Clues Your Partner is Having an Affair

Written by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach

Some of these signs of a cheating spouse are "tongue in cheek" while others are tell tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating husband or cheating wife. There is no copyright. Feel free to forward to those who might be interested. But please don't change anything.

Signs of a Cheating Spouse:

1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy.

2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know aboutrepparttar cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)

3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.

4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.

5) He leavesrepparttar 122016 house inrepparttar 122017 morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns inrepparttar 122018 evening smelling like Safeguard.

6) She joinsrepparttar 122019 gym and begins a rigorous workout program.

7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.

8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.

9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are onrepparttar 122020 pill.

10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls fromrepparttar 122021 caller ID.

11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.

12) He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.

13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible to love more than one person at a time?"

14) He buys himself new underwear.

15) He insistsrepparttar 122022 child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.

16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring.

17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful withrepparttar 122023 laundry.

18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.

19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.

20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.

21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.

22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up onrepparttar 122024 pay stub.

What Everyone Needs to Know About Extramarital Affairs... and what you can do to help

Written by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach

Recent statistics suggest that 40% of women (and that number is increasing) and 60% of men at one point indulge in extramarital affairs. Put those numbers together and it is estimated that 80% ofrepparttar marriages will have one spouse at one point or another involved in marital infidelity.

That may seem like a very steep number. However after two decades plus of full time work as a marriage and family therapist, I don't believe that number is offrepparttar 122015 charts. I worked with a great number of people involved in infidelity who were never discovered.

The possibility that someone close to you is or soon will be involved in an extramarital affair (any ofrepparttar 122016 three parties) is extremely high.

Maybe you will know. You will see telltale signs. You will notice changes inrepparttar 122017 person's habits and behavioral patterns as well as a detachment, lack of focus and reduced productivity. Maybe you will sense something "out of character" but be unable to pinpoint what it is.

It is not a given that he/she will tell you. Those hidingrepparttar 122018 affair will continue to hide. The "victim" ofrepparttar 122019 extramarital affair often, at least initially, is racked with anger, hurt, embarrassment and thoughts of failing that preclude divulgingrepparttar 122020 crisis.

It might be important to confrontrepparttar 122021 person with your observations, depending onrepparttar 122022 status of your relationship withrepparttar 122023 person.

It is important to understand that extramarital affairs are different and serve different purposes.

Out of my study and experience with hundreds of couples I've identified 7 different kinds of infidelity.

Briefly, some extramarital affairs are reactivity to a perceived lack of intimacy inrepparttar 122024 marriage. Others arise out of addictive tendencies or a history of sexual confusion or trauma.

Some in our culture play out issues of entitlement and power by becoming "trophy chasers." This "boys will be boys" mentality is subtly encouraged in some contexts. Some become involved in marital infidelity because of a high need for drama and excitement and are enthralled withrepparttar 122025 idea of "being in love" and having that "loving feeling."

An extramarital affair might be for revenge either becauserepparttar 122026 spouse did or did not do something. Orrepparttar 122027 revenge may stem from rage. Although revenge isrepparttar 122028 motive for both, they look and feel very different.

Another form of infidelity servesrepparttar 122029 purpose of affirming personal desirability. A nagging question of being "OK" may lead to usually a short-term and one-person affair. And finally, some affairs are a dance that attempts to balance needs for distance and intimacy inrepparttar 122030 marriage, often with collusion fromrepparttar 122031 spouse.

The prognosis for survivability ofrepparttar 122032 marriage is different for each. Some affairs arerepparttar 122033 best thing that happens to a marriage. Others serve a death knell. As well, different extramarital affairs demand different strategies onrepparttar 122034 part ofrepparttar 122035 spouse or others. Some demand toughness and movement. Others demand patience and understanding.

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