3 Easy Steps to Low Stress Communication

Written by Peter Murphy


Life is all about choices. And so isrepparttar way you communicate. You can fill your days with frustrating high stress communication or you can have days of low stress effective communication with your peers.

Now take a moment to learn three ways to have low stress communication.

1 Recognize Positive Intentions

When someone you are talking to is unkind, negative or downright rude it is easy to get annoyed, angry and even aggressive.

However this will just makesrepparttar 129653 situation worse and even faster than you can imagine.

There is a better way. Instead look forrepparttar 129654 positive intention ofrepparttar 129655 person you are talking to. What do I mean?

Ask yourself -- what isrepparttar 129656 positive intention behind this behavior?

Ifrepparttar 129657 person you are talking to is angry mayberepparttar 129658 positive intention is to express some hurt or frustration. What is important is looking for a positive not to getrepparttar 129659 correct answer.

When you assumerepparttar 129660 person has a positive message hidden underneathrepparttar 129661 negative exterior you will have more compassion and patience and you will not feel so stressed dealing withrepparttar 129662 individual.

2 Choose Your Own Emotional State

I talk a lot aboutrepparttar 129663 importance of managing your emotional state. Why? Because it is an essential life skill.

Unless you are in charge of how you feel your ability to communicate effectively will always be limited and dependent on other people.

Do You Make These Common Mistakes When Talking to People?

Written by Peter Murphy


Many moons ago. Talking to people was something I avoided where possible.

Atrepparttar time, I did not know I was unconsciously setting myself up for failure. I kept makingrepparttar 129652 same mistakes without even noticing what I was doing wrong.

You may be doingrepparttar 129653 same thing.

Here are three common mistakes together with tips on how to deal with them:

1. Judging Your Performance Against Unrealistic Standards

Be honest with yourself.

Accept that where you are now in terms of your communication skills is only your starting point - not your finishing point.

And assess your performance and your progress against your typical level of effectiveness. Not against some desired state of perfection or ultimate goal.

Goals are very important as a destination to aim for but do not use long term goals as a standard to judge your current performance against - that is a recipe for disillusionment and massive frustration.

I know. Because I tried it!

2. The Failure To Learn Each Day

As people we can be lazy. This means that a lack of follow through on our goals can go unnoticed. After all we can always catch up some other day.

This attitude will kill your dreams faster than you can spell failure.

When I started to make massive improvements in how I related to people I dedicated myself to becoming excellent.

Once I had proven strategiesrepparttar 129654 rest was easy. I just appliedrepparttar 129655 material each day. I improved each day because I made it a priority and because I committed to applyingrepparttar 129656 material.

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