Self Help: 3 Easy Steps to Low Stress Communication

3 Easy Steps to Low Stress Communication

Written by Peter Murphy

Life is all about choices. And so is repparttar

way you communicate. You can fill your days with frustrating high stress communication or you can have days of low stress effective communication with your peers.

Now take a moment to learn three ways to have low stress communication.

1 Recognize Positive Intentions

When someone you are talking to is unkind, negative or downright rude it is easy to get annoyed, angry and even aggressive.

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Ask yourself -- what is repparttar 129656 positive intention behind this behavior?

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When you assume repparttar 129660 person has a positive message hidden underneath repparttar 129661 negative exterior you will have more compassion and patience and you will not feel so stressed dealing with repparttar 129662 individual.

2 Choose Your Own Emotional State

I talk a lot about repparttar 129663 importance of managing your emotional state. Why? Because it is an essential life skill.

Unless you are in charge of how you feel your ability to communicate effectively will always be limited and dependent on other people.

Do You Make These Common Mistakes When Talking to People?

Written by Peter Murphy

Many moons ago. Talking to people was something I avoided where possible.

At repparttar time, I did not know I was unconsciously setting myself up for failure. I kept making repparttar 129652 same mistakes without even noticing what I was doing wrong.

You may be doing repparttar 129653 same thing.

Here are three common mistakes together with tips on how to deal with them:

1. Judging Your Performance Against Unrealistic Standards

Be honest with yourself.

Accept that where you are now in terms of your communication skills is only your starting point - not your finishing point.

And assess your performance and your progress against your typical level of effectiveness. Not against some desired state of perfection or ultimate goal.

Goals are very important as a destination to aim for but do not use long term goals as a standard to judge your current performance against - that is a recipe for disillusionment and massive frustration.

I know. Because I tried it!

2. The Failure To Learn Each Day

As people we can be lazy. This means that a lack of follow through on our goals can go unnoticed. After all we can always catch up some other day.

This attitude will kill your dreams faster than you can spell failure.

When I started to make massive improvements in how I related to people I dedicated myself to becoming excellent.

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