3-2-1 Contact

Written by Jennifer Lester


You only have one chance to make a first impression, so do it right!

You have browsed a number of personals and have found some that spark your interest. Now isrepparttar time to make your first contact. Start with a short e-mail. This isrepparttar 130030 time to talk about them. After all, if they are interested, they will checkrepparttar 130031 personal profile you set up for yourself to find out all about you, so don’t make your first contact a laundry list of all your traits. Definitely remember to put your best foot forward!

Begin by telling them what about their personal ad made you want to contact them. Be specific and descriptive. If it was something in their smile onrepparttar 130032 photo, tell them how warm you think their smile is. If it is something funny in their words, let them know how hard you were laughing and how much you enjoyed it.

Do not send out a form letter. You don’t want to contact each personrepparttar 130033 exact same way. This shouldn’t be a numbers game. It should be about quality. When I had my personal ad posted I would get emails from men just simply stating “I think we would be hot together” or “check me out”, and that would be all they said. Why would I, or anyone else, waste their time responding to that when we have a great note from a person whom obviously paid attention to what we said and who we are. Would you? Keep in mind, if you wouldn’t respond to it, don’t write it to someone else.

Back in the Saddle

Written by Jennifer Lester


The single parents' guide to dating again.

Going through a divorce is hard. Getting back intorepparttar dating scene can seem even harder. You have been out ofrepparttar 130028 scene for a while now and are not sure how to get back in. Let alone, back in with kids in tow.

When I first found myself back inrepparttar 130029 dating scene after having my daughter and getting divorced, I was excited and scared all at once. I didn’t think that I would be able to find a good man that would be willing to take me on with my daughter inrepparttar 130030 picture.

Sure, it is harder to date when you have kids. You don’t have as much time to go out to meet people. It takes time with you away from your kids and you have to spend your money to pay for a babysitter. Sure seems like it would be much more rewarding to be shelling outrepparttar 130031 dough to spend time with someone you already find special than to be out looking for that person.

That is why I turned to online dating and would definitely recommend it to other single parents. With online dating you can get to know people fromrepparttar 130032 comfort of your own home with your children tucked quietly into bed. I spent many a night with my Amarretto Sour onrepparttar 130033 rocks in hand and my music playing inrepparttar 130034 background chatting it up withrepparttar 130035 newest “prospects” that I was meeting through my personal ad or through one I had responded to. My social life was enriched overnight and I loved it.

Then camerepparttar 130036 time to go out an meet face-to-facerepparttar 130037 men that I found “worthy” of my time andrepparttar 130038 hard earned money that I would have to payrepparttar 130039 neighborhood babysitter. I followed my 6 Simple Rules for Internet Dating for my safety, but what aboutrepparttar 130040 safety of my child?

As parents, we are always protective of our kids. Their emotional and physical health meansrepparttar 130041 world to us. It is even more important that you protect your personal information such as your address and home phone number when you first meet someone. After all, it doesn't just give them access to you that you may not want them to have, it also gives them access to your children. Don’t give it out until you have met them face-to-face and are certain that you feel comfortable with them. There is no fail safe way of knowing for sure that someone is a good person. Listen to your intuition! It is a powerful tool. You can also have someone checked out at Check My Mate.com if you want to check all their possible criminal or marriage records.

You don’t want to leave your children completely out of it either. If someone is special enough for you to continue spending time with, they should be special enough to spend time with your kids. You shouldn’t be wasting your time with someone who can’t love your children too. After all, when it comes to marriage or any long-term relationship you are a package deal with your children.

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