Curing procrastination is not necessarily about will power or forcefully advancing in your goals but rather it is about learning why we procrastinate, what we are afraid of and finding ways to face those fears in order to move forward in our lives.

What are you afraid of?

1. Fear of Failure.

The fear of failure is by far most obvious fear which can cause disabling procrastination. This is especially true as it pertains to our professional lives, careers, and for college students their assignments.

If fear of failure is causing you to put off a task then what you need to do is sit down and think carefully about all of possible outcomes if indeed you fail.

Actually, first consider what does it mean to fail? If you can not answer this question then you have nothing to fear and your task of curing procrastination is finished.

If you can certainly imagine failing in given task then consider for a minute what is worst possible consequence of failing.

Elizabeth, 32, cried during anger management class as she told how one year ago - her 19-month-old girl was permanently brain-damaged as result of a medical error at hospital in which she was delivered.

Elizabeth had a legitimate grievance toward hospital and medical staff, and felt that she could never forgive them for what she saw as theri incompetence. She clearly was not yet ready to forgive. She felt she needed her simmering anger to motiviate her to do what she felt she needed to do legally and otherwise to deal with this horrific situation.

Yet, at some point in future - when she is ready - Elizabeth might decide to find a way to forgive. To be able to do this, she will have to take step of separating two things in her mind: (1) blaming hospital for what they did and (2) blaming them for her resulting feelings about situation.

Reasons to forgive

Elizabeth cannot change what was done to her daughter, but she can change how she lives rest of her life. If she continues to hold an intense grievance, she is giving what happened in past power to determine her present emotional well being. Until she forgives, Elizabeth will be victimized over and over again, trapped in an emotional prison.

Should you forgive?

The answer to this question always comes down to personal choices and decisions. Some people in our anger management classes feel that certain things cannot and shouldn't be forgiven; others feel that ultimately anything can be forgiven.