My friends and I were at a straight bar and a buzz-cut, red-neck from local military academy lured my friend outside to ‘make-out’.

When he didn’t return we went looking for him and found him out cold on sidewalk – bashed!

How horrible some human beings can be….

Anyway, same thing goes for people who are only pretending to be single and available, but are actually either married or already in a relationship.

They may not physically bash you but it is still a form of abuse.

They maliciously put you at risk of sexual disease, HIV and having your heart wrenched out and thrown to hounds. Anyway you look at it, it can’t end well….for you!

Well that brings us to end of this brief article.

My main message for you today is you have to be on your guard and be aware many onliners are going to deceive you. I wish it weren’t true but it’s a fact of life.

Thankfully, with right tools, you can greatly reduce your exposure to risk and keep yourself safe.

In next article in this series, you will begin to learn how to detect online ads or profiles from trolls.

Specifically you will learn about what I’ve called ‘Move Out Ya Bum!’ and ‘The Pungency of Desperation’.

Discover what they mean and what to do if you spot either of them.

Until then,

Your Truly, Adam Coole

We do not want to hear about your ex, how badly they treated you, ran up your phone bill, and cleared out your bank account or things that were wrong with them. Know what this tells someone? You are not over it, you are still angry and hurt and certainly “not emotionally available”. You need to face these issues head on and let go of them before considering new beginnings. Deal with your emotions, feelings, and move forward thus unpacking excess baggage.

Realize and accept your situation and its circumstances, when it is over, take time to grieve and deal with your feelings and then set them aside, clear your mind and your heart of all obstructions and embark on your new journey with a clean slate.

In conversations with someone new, tell them about yourself, what you like to do, what are your passions, your goals in life, your job, your children, your pets or anything that is a positive, and forget about negative. Let me tell you this, you let that negativity creep back in and you are going to be sitting home alone watching sappy movies and crying over lost love when you could be enjoying world that is there to be explored.

So, unpack your bags and put unnecessary items away! Store baggage, be it emotional, physical or human, you no longer have any need for it. Seek new horizon ahead of you, happiness that awaits you and satisfaction of knowing that what you have to offer another person is greatest of all gifts, but let that gift be of you, your present and your future, past done, time to begin anew.

Remember…..always travel light.