take the child's perspective

Written by Darrin F. Coe, MA


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Adults have options to help them get to sleep. Children are required to lay in bed, quiet and still whether they are tired or not. Eventually, they’ll sleep but considerrepparttar trauma they may experience inrepparttar 111087 process. Behavioral psychology teaches that rewarding positive behavior is more effective than punishing undesirable behavior. Developmental psychology has found soothing sounds, calm environments, and structure positively impact behavior. Stop punishing and start rewarding. Figure out what you want your children to do and reward them for it. Rewards can be complimenting and praising them, small pieces of candy, time spent playing a favorite game, time spent watching a favorite television show, or anything else special torepparttar 111088 child. Acknowledge them as children who are loved and nurtured. High energy, breaking things, not paying attention, spilling things, running wild and being loud are part of being a child. Children are not miniature adults and shouldn’t be expected to act like adults.



Darrin F. Coe holds a master's degree in professional psychology and is the father of two pre-school boys. contact at http://dcoe1.tripod.com


"Reasons You Aren't Starting the Decision Making Process About Whether To Get a Divorce Or Stay Married"

Written by Karl Augustine


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Here are 5 reasons you might not be deciding to take action when it comes to deciding whether you should get a divorce or stay married:

1. You know thatrepparttar severity of divorce is something not to be taken lightly so you avoid that "potential" outcome by doing nothing.

I assure you, if you realize that divorce is serious, you're ahead ofrepparttar 111086 game because it means that you will do what it takes to change your situation!

2. You haven't decided to take action because you think you actually do want a divorce, and you think that divorce can create emotional scars that take a long time to heal.

3. You know that, whateverrepparttar 111087 outcome, you're really not ready to face a potentially painful end result, so you avoidrepparttar 111088 situation all together.

4. You are just flat out scared to make a decision about divorce because you know that making this difficult decision will involve profound change and deep "self-examination". And, like most of us, you want to avoidrepparttar 111089 pain and discomfort that goes with that.

5. You just don't know where to start because you are confused due torepparttar 111090 emotional complexities ofrepparttar 111091 situation. You really don't know how you feel.

All are these are valid points, but they are really just excuses to do nothing.

And, if you do nothing,repparttar 111092 problem will still remain. And that problem is "indecision".

You haven't committed to decide. If any of these things are keeping you from making a decision about whether to stay married, you're doing more harm to yourself than good. In fact, by doing nothing, you are only compounding your problem. You are contributing to your own unhappiness by not taking action and that is just flat out unhealthy!

The first stage to going throughrepparttar 111093 process of deciding whether or not to get a divorce, is to overcome your fear ofrepparttar 111094 potential outcome and embrace this 'emotionally driven' process. Defining your fears and identifying why you aren't makingrepparttar 111095 decision, or at least startingrepparttar 111096 decision making process about getting a divorce or staying married, isrepparttar 111097 only way you will be able to reach your ultimate goal…making a final decision to either get divorced or try to work it out.

Author of "A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not To Get A Divorce", the eBook recommended by counselors to thier clients. Proven "Actions Items" to help you decide! http://www.deciding-on-divorce.com

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