People have impulsive behavior that simply can’t be measured when they’re sitting, relaxed and introspective, taking one of these tests. Often our answers reflect our perfect (or hopeful) idea of ourselves. Even if we are trying our best to be honest, our impulsive behavior in real-life situations can be far different than we’d expect.

Another wildcard is attraction. We can meet someone who’s empirically good-looking, has a similar background, is kind and successful – and yet we’re not attracted. Often we can’t explain why we like another person. It may be how they make us laugh, a crooked smile – even how they smell! Sometimes little things that are immeasurable on their own can collectively make us attracted.

Human beings and our emotions and desires are far too complex, and a computer program can’t solve riddles of our romantic lives. As Jung put it, “the meeting of two personalities is like contact of two chemical substances; if there is a reaction both are transformed”. It sounds good, but even Jung was hedging his bet when it comes to love. What will cause two individuals to react to each other? Even developers of study of personality would not presume that a series of questions could predict romance.

If you rely solely on matchmaking services, you are missing entire beauty of online dating. The beauty is opportunity. Online dating offers you an almost limitless opportunity to meet and date new people. It gives you time and space to find what best suits you. Going to a quality dating site that isn’t trying to sell you fantasy of finding your match for you will mean you will have a pool of millions of singles to meet.

Treat matchmaking options as just another fun way to explore. It can serve as an ice breaker to start a conversation, but don’t expect them to be answer to finding your perfect match. Keep all options open and explore possibilities. As a unique individual, only can you know what works for you. You need to develop skills to communicate and meet people. Developing both online and offline dating skills is best way to find right relationship.

Next time you’re brushing your teeth, take a look in mirror. See that amazing person? That’s your matchmaker with a mouthful of toothpaste. Take charge of your life and get into action! Enjoy dating and enjoy process of discovery. Your experiences, both good and not-so-good, are essential to finding right person for you.

What is this all about? It is said that Jews lost first temple because of their inability to understand and relate with God. God, however, understood that He’s very esoteric and difficult to comprehend and gave Jews a second chance. The Jews lost second temple when they started in fighting and weren’t able to relate to one another. This was inexcusable and led to current exile and Diaspora.

The Song of Songs describes relationship between God and humanity much like that of relationship between two lovers. If we connect two ideas we can gather that loss of second temple, leading to current exile was and is much like a lovers’ quarrel. God was and is extremely frustrated with us and threw up his arms and is not giving us ‘silent treatment’. He’s giving us space, or forcing us to take space, for us to come to terms with ourselves much like when sometimes, lovers spend time apart to allow one or other to come to terms with certain things. My guess is that God is extremely frustrated and has lost his faith in us to be his partner in love and discovery.

I imagine that He’s desperately hoping that we are able to come closer to each other and spread love and understanding across this planet. Each human has a piece of God as we were made in his image. (Baruch Spinoza may have been excommunicated for this notion, but that excommunication was posthumously recanted.) Thus, more people we love and more we explore our love with one special person, more pieces of God we come to terms with. One could suppose that God was extremely frustrated with us, but understood that his love was too intense for us to bear. Thus, he sought to set upon us a task which would allow us to come towards him in steps. The more we love, move we are love and more we increase love, more we approach notion of God. If we spread love across this planet, God and humanity will be able to leave our respective wombs and take a leap of faith together into wonders that lie beyond.

Appendix – Kierkegaard’s Engagement Source: http://www.meta-religion.com/Philosophy/Biography/Aabye_Kierkegaard/aabye_kierkegaard.htm

Assuming Kierkegaard’s diaries and his confessions to his friends are honest, engagement to Regine was most difficult year of his life. Kierkegaard seems to have been torn between idea of a marriage and his need for solitude. After a year, Kierkegaard broke engagement. Regine attempted to appease Kierkegaard and win his heart, even after his unusual treatment of her, but he rebuffed her advances.

Kierkegaard claimed he wanted to force Regine away from him, so she would marry another man. It is possible he did not think himself worthy. It is also possible he did not want to deal with emotions associated with romance. Regardless, he tried to be ‘indifferent’ and drive Regine out of his life. In later years, Kierkegaard called his destruction of relationship a “self-inflicted wound” that caused him a great deal of misery. If he cared for Regine, as many believe Kierkegaard did, his need to avoid a relationship is not easily understood by most people. Intellectually brilliant, yet emotionally unwilling to deal with ties to others, Kierkegaard wanted to be alone and isolated from much of society. Nothing would tie him to society more than marriage.