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It may learn it can pick up tasty treats with its trunk, and so it remembers to do this.
Or someone may capture it when it’s little, and put a chain around its leg attached to a stake that’s too strong for it to pull away from. It will try with all its might, and only succeed in tearing its leg which causes more pain, so eventually, being smart, being able to learn, it gives up.
What it has learned is hopelessness and helplessness. This means for rest of its life, even when it weigh 6 tons and should be nearly impossible to contain, it will allow that chain on its leg to rule its life.
So there stands that 6-ton animal, tethered by nothing really, except its fearful memories.
Has this happened to you? (Think about it.)
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