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5. Practice having fun, even when you’re feeling miserable! Don’t wait until your life is perfect to plan fun activities. Do something that you’ve wanted to do but have put off. You might have said to yourself, “One day I’m going to take piano lessons.” Now is time to get started. Make a list of things that you’d enjoy doing and pick one to put on your schedule. One of biggest mistakes you can make is to wait and see what happens in your marriage before you take steps to create a more satisfying life. The time to start enjoying life is now.
6. Expand your support circle. Stay in touch with your friends, even though your first impulse may be to withdraw when you’re feeling blue. Look for ways to increase your contact with others such as taking a night class, going hiking with a local hiking group, or attending services at your church, synagogue, or mosque. Don’t let fear of questions keep you at home. You can be discrete and give a response such as, “I can’t get into it, but I appreciate your caring and concern so very much. Thank you.”
7. Find your strong woman or strong man warrior energy. Go rappelling, learn to scuba dive, ride in a hot air balloon, try para-sailing, plan a backpacking trip, go horseback riding, lift weights, explore river rafting, dance around a campfire, sing powerful songs, or sign up for a martial arts class. Do whatever empowers you and make you feel strong and energetic. Stretch out of your comfort zone and surprise yourself by doing something different. Then congratulate yourself for your spunk.
Tips adapted from book Keep Your Marriage: What To Do When Your Spouse Says “I don’t love you anymore!” by Nancy J. Wasson, Ph.D. and Lee Hefner. Available only at http://www.KeepYourMarriage.com.
Nancy J. Wasson, Ph.D., is co-author of Keep Your Marriage: What to Do When Your Spouse Says "I don't love you anymore!" Available only at http://www.Keep Your Marriage.com. Nancy can be contacted at Nancy@KeepYourMarriage.com.