And now assume a posture that says you are listening to most fascinating and brilliant person ever and you want to hear every word. That is your listening posture. If you pay attention to posture of your body when you are listening, you have taken third step in resting in your Listening Center.

That's all there is to it. Still your Judgment Jabber, relax, and put your body in a listening posture. Go to your Listening Center and it will be a tremendous ally in making you an excellent listener.

AND TODAY . . .

"When you listen attentively to somebody, you forget yourself. If you cannot forget yourself, you never listen." Osho

You can easily make your Listening Center a part of you, second nature, and automatic. It simply takes a bit of practice. Today begin your practice. When you are listening, consciously follow three steps to your Listening Center.

It may feel a bit awkward in beginning but more you do it, more it will become a part of you, a splendid habit.

Find your Listening Center at least once an hour today. It will become easier and easier. Today is first day in developing your new habit. As days go by, you will marvel at how easy and effortless it is for you to listen.

The benefits are astounding: friends, success, respect, much more.

And you will be surprised at what you will hear when you really listen.

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When he finally discussed this with me, I heard right away that these dreams were being caused by desktop theme. Even though he was looking back at fun times when he viewed it, it was triggering memories in his subconscious that were not so fun. When we changed theme of his desktop, dreams stopped.

The subconscious is an interesting thing. It can take over and drive our cars for us when we are daydreaming while driving, but it has no ability to discern between fantasy and reality or between truth and lies. Our subconscious has no sense of good or bad, evil or angelic. It just IS. And when it is triggered by something, it can take over our dreams in ways that we do not understand.

So, what is your desktop theme saying to your subconscious? This is not unlike what that bumper sticker on your car is saying to strangers. You need to take a look at this and evaluate what your theme is saying to you and about you.

Try to pick a desktop theme that shows something soothing, or some goal that you have. Make it be uplifting! Consider it as a tool that can work for you or against you. It is a lot easier to have a theme that is going to trigger only highest and best in your subconscious, than it is to deal with bad dreams or why your thinking may be negative.

Little things can mean a lot!