Coaches expect to serve as a resource, confidante and mentor, but don't want clients to let themselves get into position of needing coaching as a dependence thing or a fix. You are one who will find answers. Coaches just try to provide a clearer map than you may have had in past.

Is coaching consulting? No,coaching is more about helping client to learn to make good choices than about giving advice. Coaches help you discover and consider various alternations, but you are always in driver's seat with decisions. In coaching client is always in drivers seat – Coaches coach, you do laps!

How long would I need to have a coach? Until you think you have achieved what you set out to achieve. The time frame can vary from a few months to several years – as long as you feel you are getting value from relationship. Although we will make some firm agreements and commitments at start of coaching relationship, you are free to stop coaching at any time if it is not working for you.

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Those who wilt and turn inward usually punish themselves, whether anyone else or not.

Let's spin ourselves three times and skip-to-my- Lou forwards. Even if we understand how angry person got angry, is it wise to form a partnership or marriage with such a one? That person needs help, but isn't going to take it from you, and for sure not until she or he wants to look at ugly sore again.

So don't date, don't marry, don't even get close to an angry person unless you are a glutton for pain, or else you have strength to wrestle an angry animal down until it's healed.

What it takes to heal an old wound is;

1. take a good close, curious look at it,

2. confront person who caused it originally, and express hurt, pain suffered,

3. whether Cause repents or not, woundee must forgive, set aside that event by giving it to God to redeem, and believe that good will now come out of it.

But old habits of quickly lashing out or self- beating will die hard, and if you are friend that is going to stick it out for a woundee's sake, don't expect to coast just yet.

Brace yourself. You'll get scratched and wounded too, but if you are braced and remember to deal with each wound while fresh, you are a strong and noble character, and God called you a Blessed Peacemaker.

May your tribe increase!

*(Proverbs 22:14 NIV).