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It was Pablo Picasso that stated that 'every act of creation is necessarily an act of destruction'.
Whether you like it or not, breaking up with girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife is a creative process as much as it is a destructive process. What you are in fact doing is deconstructing your life with your partner and re-creating your life where your partner takes on a different role to one they had previously. In extreme cases, you may even decide that your partner will have no future role in your life.
This creative process can be turbulent and it can also be profoundly enjoyable and exciting. What you have is an opportunity to start over. If it feels right for you, completely immerse yourself into creative process. Take opportunity to try as many new things as you possibly can. You may well astound yourself with what you are capable of doing on your own.
3. Allow yourself to regenerate.
If you are going through a break up allow yourself plenty of time to regenerate. Focus on things that you can control. Make sure that you exercise regularly, eat properly and get plenty of rest. Read, spend time with family and close friends and spend plenty of time in nature.
Take things slowly, look after yourself and create time and space in your life necessary to allow yourself to start growing again.
Remember two things.
However you choose to adapt to this change process, it is of critical importance that you remember two things;
i)be kind to yourself and ii)be kind to your ex-partner.
Whether your break-up was hard fought or amicable, extending compassion to your old friend will help you both immensely in healing process. Remember that you are both beautifully human, doing best you can to navigate through this world.
Copyright Damien Senn 2005. All rights reserved.
Damien Senn is a Life and Business Coach as well as a fully qualified Chartered Accountant.
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