• Have control over how others feel about you and treat you;

• Have control over outcome of things…

…then you will not be able to connect with your guidance. When your deepest desire is to control rather than learn about loving yourself and others, you will not be able to access Spirit. And we can’t fool Spirit. We can’t get away with tricking ourselves or Spirit. For example, one of my clients was having trouble connecting with Spirit. When I asked him if his true intent was to be loving to himself when he was attempting to speak with his guidance, he stated, “Of course I want to be loving to myself. Then maybe I’ll be healthy enough to meet woman of my dreams.” In this case, his deeper intent was to have control over meeting woman of his dreams. Until he wanted to be loving to with no outcome in mind other than desire to be a more loving human being, spiritual guidance would elude him.

Connecting with our guidance is easy when our deepest desire is to evolve into a more loving human being - with ourselves and others. When we have courage to take loving action in our own behalf - such as standing up for ourselves, telling our truth, taking risks to discover our joy, taking care of ourselves physically through diet and exercise, feeling our painful feelings and taking responsibility for what we are doing to create our own pain - then Spirit will show us way. Spirit will find a way to communicate with you - such as through words, feelings, images, books, dreams, or other people - when your pure desire is to learn about love, starting with loving yourself and taking 100% responsibility for your own feelings and needs.

Are you ready to take loving care of yourself rather than expect others to do it for you? Are you ready to take responsibility for your pain instead of blaming others for it? Are you ready to create your joy and self-esteem rather than relying on others to do this for you? When you are really ready to take loving care of yourself, then ask Spirit how to do it and you will be shown way. Your guidance is just waiting for you to ask.

10.Food alleged to be aphrodisiac? Go here: http://entertaining.about.com/library/weekly/aa013100a.htm

11.Make an Origami heart to place on someone’s pillow: http://dev.origami.com/images_pdf/heart_sc.pdf of an origami note-pocket heart for your honey’s lunch box or suit pocket: http://www.netguides.org.uk/guides/origami/heart.html

12.How to make “the goblet fan fol”, yes it’s napking for your Valentine table: http://interiordec.about.com/library/bl_napkfold004.htm

13.Valentine’s neck ties, socks and braces for guys: http://interiordec.about.com/library/bl_napkfold004.htm

14.And don’t forget bright red cummerbund and bowtie: http://store.yahoo.com iebar2/solcolcumbow.html

15.Need some finery for your furry friend – rabbit, small dog, cat, or ferret. Scarves, ties, vests, bows and boas! http://www.cosettescloset.com/valwear.html .

16.“How do I love thee? Let me count ways…” and other great Romantic poetry: http://www.inspirationpoint.com/ippoetry.htm

17.Want to have an emotionally intelligent Valentine’s Day? Take EQ Course: http://www.susandunn.cc/courses.htm .

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19.Not in a partnership this year and looking for great ideas for celebrating non-traditionally? Try some of these: http:/ opten.org/public/BI/BI334.html .